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I read the most interesting article last night about teens and preteens in violent relationships.
Did you know that according to some statistics, almost 50% of teens and preteens have been in or are in abusive relationships?
This article caught my eye because of a rash of these situations going on in our town. Teenage and young adult males making the paper for violent behavior ended up with my neighbors son being murdered by his girlfriend (they were arguing via cell phone from their cars, he was parked by the side of the road and she slammed her car into his drivers side door and pinned his SUV between her car and a tree). Her dad is a local cop and they tried to bury the evidence, but were found out.
A young girl was leaving work early to attend his funeral, her ex-boyfriend picked her up to drop her off there (he was not welcome to attend), and he drove her into New Jersey and murdered and buried her in a shallow grave.
Here are some of the warning signs that friends and parents need to watch for:
He/she apologizes for the behavior and makes excuses for him/her
He/she cancels plans at the last minute for reasons that sound untrue
He/she seems worried about making him/her mad
He/she spends less time doing things that they enjoyed
His/her weight, appearance and/or grades have changed dramatically
He/she has injuries that they can't explain or the explanations don't make sense
They change the way they dress
They retreat from family and friends
WARNING SIGNS ABOUT THE BOY/GIRL FRIEND
He/she's aldways checking up on her, calling, texting, demanding to know where she's been
You've seen him lose his temper, maybe even break or hit things when he's made
He acts extrememly jealous when she talks to other guys
He puts her down in front of others
I certainly don't feel qualified to lecture here because my kids are still young, but the statistics made me scared for all of you who have sons and daughters who are approaching or are in their teens.
Beth
Did you know that according to some statistics, almost 50% of teens and preteens have been in or are in abusive relationships?
This article caught my eye because of a rash of these situations going on in our town. Teenage and young adult males making the paper for violent behavior ended up with my neighbors son being murdered by his girlfriend (they were arguing via cell phone from their cars, he was parked by the side of the road and she slammed her car into his drivers side door and pinned his SUV between her car and a tree). Her dad is a local cop and they tried to bury the evidence, but were found out.
A young girl was leaving work early to attend his funeral, her ex-boyfriend picked her up to drop her off there (he was not welcome to attend), and he drove her into New Jersey and murdered and buried her in a shallow grave.
Here are some of the warning signs that friends and parents need to watch for:
He/she apologizes for the behavior and makes excuses for him/her
He/she cancels plans at the last minute for reasons that sound untrue
He/she seems worried about making him/her mad
He/she spends less time doing things that they enjoyed
His/her weight, appearance and/or grades have changed dramatically
He/she has injuries that they can't explain or the explanations don't make sense
They change the way they dress
They retreat from family and friends
WARNING SIGNS ABOUT THE BOY/GIRL FRIEND
He/she's aldways checking up on her, calling, texting, demanding to know where she's been
You've seen him lose his temper, maybe even break or hit things when he's made
He acts extrememly jealous when she talks to other guys
He puts her down in front of others
I certainly don't feel qualified to lecture here because my kids are still young, but the statistics made me scared for all of you who have sons and daughters who are approaching or are in their teens.
Beth