Scent of Cedar *
Well-Known Member
I was
so pleased I took him to Barnes and Noble and got
him a book that was the entire trilogy put together.
I love that you did this. Without trying to sound too sappy...this is a miracle that happened right there, right in front of everyone. You might have chosen hatred or contempt or revenge. "Too bad for you, you should be home and you should be someone else and you should and you should and you should."
You might have chosen so many things, but you chose loving and honoring and teaching.
I believe each book has its own journey through time. Books are passed from owner to owner and they appear in the strangest places. It will be interesting to see where this set goes and what it teaches your child.
Now, he has something to protect.
Even if it's stolen or lost, to have been cherished as you have cherished him with this gift is something very special.
I miss him.
Yes. We love them so much, and we don't understand why these things are happening. It takes more strength to parent a child going a wrong way than we have.
But we do the best we know, anyway.
I told him if he has to work on the day of the
family Thanksgiving, I'd make dinner and he could come
here on actual Thanksgiving day.
I love this.
"Please don't make this hard."
I love this, too. An acknowledgement of the facts, of what is. An acknowledgement that you love him, but that it is what it is and that something has to change.
It is a pretty sad sack little truth, but I have learned my children's realities, their "this is who I am, who I really am, outside my role as your child" through all this in a way I would not have, had everything been normal for us.
I guess they have learned me in that way, too.
Saying no, being real...that stuff is so hard, because we have to figure it out first. We have to get through all the ways we wanted it to be, and we have to see things we don't want to know.
But you know? At the bottom of it, it's like we are still so root level connected. I wonder whether that is true for "normal" families.
I must be waxing philosophical this morning.
:O)
I like the way you handled this, lil.
I hope your son enjoys his reading. What was the trilogy? Lord of the Rings? I read alot, and so, I read the things my grandchildren or children suggest pretty routinely. The Twilight Saga, the Dexter books, Anne Rice...at bottom, these things the kids are reading turn out to be about how to live a life, turn out to be about what matters.
I love science fiction.
I hear that the most popular TV series is one about zombies. The premise is how to protect the family, about how to know what is real.
I find that interesting, that the kids think and feel that way.
In a society set up to profit from human things, I mean.
I have been listening to rap music for the past year or so, too. Some of it is useless, of course, but some of it is blazing philosophical comment on what it is to be human, today.
Interesting stuff.
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I sent my son a copy of ShoGun, once.
I don't know whether he read it. I hope that he did. He is a voracious reader, too.
The Dexter books? I read for difficult child daughter. She is crazy about Dexter.
Go figure that one!
Cedar
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