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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 440319" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Be sure you point this out to the judge - that you ahve the cost covered 100% and need the court to order him there - NOT to pay for it. That may make a difference in this economic climate. judges have to be very aware of the costs of what they order for defendants and this might help.</p><p></p><p>It sounds like he wants help. But please be aware it can take many trips through rehab to kick drugs. You are very right in that if he doesn't want this for himself then it won't happen. Addicts have to hit bottom to get and stay clean. Bottom is NOT the same for everyone. What would be bottom for you is NOT bottom for many. For many it is actually spending some time in jail. took my folks leaving my thirtysomething bro there for 2 weeks to get him to commit to rehab. But that won't be bottom for everyone. There are a lot of people hwo are in and out of jail for drugs and it makes no impact on their addiction.</p><p></p><p>getting this Residential Treatment Center (RTC) evaluation forced was a good move, in my opinion. Other than advocating in court for him, the next best thing you can do is to start attending alanon or narcanon regularly. I mean daily or a few times a week, not weekly or monthly. Addiction is a family disorder and those who have the best chances to enter and stay in recovery are those with families who get treatment also. In a small community you will likely have more alanon than narcanon. That is okay, it is pretty much the same thing for families. 7 in 7 is the first goal. For a week do all you can to go to 7 alanon meetings. Try to go to different times if possible. Many groups meet at lunch and are kept to about 45 min so people can go on their lunch hours. But also go to some evening groups. each group with have its' own dynamic though they will all follow the same 12 steps. Encourage your husband to go, but make sure you also go to meetings with-o each other. If you have other kids encourage them to go to alateen. This is something that makes the entire family sick. It is mroe like the flu than like cancer in that regard. Or like lice. You have to check and treat everyone, not just the person who has them. And often the entire family ends up with them. SO treatment for all is the best way to help the one who is addicted.</p><p></p><p>I hope and pray that you can get the treatment that will help him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 440319, member: 1233"] Be sure you point this out to the judge - that you ahve the cost covered 100% and need the court to order him there - NOT to pay for it. That may make a difference in this economic climate. judges have to be very aware of the costs of what they order for defendants and this might help. It sounds like he wants help. But please be aware it can take many trips through rehab to kick drugs. You are very right in that if he doesn't want this for himself then it won't happen. Addicts have to hit bottom to get and stay clean. Bottom is NOT the same for everyone. What would be bottom for you is NOT bottom for many. For many it is actually spending some time in jail. took my folks leaving my thirtysomething bro there for 2 weeks to get him to commit to rehab. But that won't be bottom for everyone. There are a lot of people hwo are in and out of jail for drugs and it makes no impact on their addiction. getting this Residential Treatment Center (RTC) evaluation forced was a good move, in my opinion. Other than advocating in court for him, the next best thing you can do is to start attending alanon or narcanon regularly. I mean daily or a few times a week, not weekly or monthly. Addiction is a family disorder and those who have the best chances to enter and stay in recovery are those with families who get treatment also. In a small community you will likely have more alanon than narcanon. That is okay, it is pretty much the same thing for families. 7 in 7 is the first goal. For a week do all you can to go to 7 alanon meetings. Try to go to different times if possible. Many groups meet at lunch and are kept to about 45 min so people can go on their lunch hours. But also go to some evening groups. each group with have its' own dynamic though they will all follow the same 12 steps. Encourage your husband to go, but make sure you also go to meetings with-o each other. If you have other kids encourage them to go to alateen. This is something that makes the entire family sick. It is mroe like the flu than like cancer in that regard. Or like lice. You have to check and treat everyone, not just the person who has them. And often the entire family ends up with them. SO treatment for all is the best way to help the one who is addicted. I hope and pray that you can get the treatment that will help him. [/QUOTE]
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