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<blockquote data-quote="hexemaus2" data-source="post: 193712" data-attributes="member: 4560"><p>klmno, I would LOVE to have our temp solution turn out to be enough for difficult child 2. That would be wonderful. And we are all leaving room for that possibility. If the temp solution turns out to be enough, then we'll stick with it. However, if it's not, we're still working on an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) placement. It would be a dream come true to get Residential Treatment Center (RTC) plans ready to go, only to have them not be necessary. </p><p> </p><p>I have to admit - the judge's <strong>staff</strong> stinks (they threw up every road block available to keep me from gaining access to him...but I don't think they realized they were dealing with a Warrior Mom who wasn't gonna let up. lol) but the judge himself is wonderful. Shoots straight from the hip, no nonsense, and with a heavy dose of good old fashioned common sense. From what I understand, one of his kids was a difficult child...so I think that's probably why he is the kind of judge that he is. </p><p> </p><p>I know I'm glad to have him in our corner...definitely wouldn't want to be on his bad side though. He's ruthless when it comes to true juvenile delinquents who don't have any other issue than just being criminals. </p><p> </p><p>I have to say, a judge who utilizes a committee to help him with matters he doesn't have enough understanding/experience/personal knowledge of is really a great idea, in my opinion. To my understanding, his committee is made up of teachers, the psychiatrist, juvenile po's, and volunteer parents. A pretty good mix of opinions and resources if you ask me. The fact that the judge has the option to take cases "under advisement" and utilize that committee of his really has been a great benefit to difficult child 2.</p><p> </p><p>difficult child 2 is excited about starting public school, but also a little scared. (That's okay - so is his Mom. lol.) He knows (if he messes up) what's waiting for him on the other side. He spent a week in YDC earlier this year after he bit the officer & he sure doesn't want to go back there. I told him that for the next 12 weeks (or sooner if the judge calls us back before the 12 week RTI at school) he should think of Judge F sitting on his shoulder, watching everything. If he's not sure how to respond to a situation, he should think about how he would explain it to Judge F and see if that helps him to make better choices. </p><p> </p><p>The school is aware that he has pending charges with Department of Juvenile Justice. They're also aware of some of difficult child 2's other past issues. We're all on the same page that our #1 goal at this point is to get him adjusted to a new routine and most of all, get some positive experiences going for him so he has good stuff to look forward to. Maybe that will help remind him what he stands to lose if he doesn't get "Fluffy" under control. So far, the school staff has been extra supportive of both difficult child 2 and me...stressing for difficult child 2 that they are all there to help him do the best he can & we all want him to succeed. </p><p> </p><p>I've done all I can at this point. From here it's up to difficult child 2 to utilize the supports we've put in place so far and make the most of his situation. I hope and pray that he will. I really do. I'd absolutely LOVE to have our "temporary" fix turn out to be a permanent one. I'd much rather have him home and doing well than have to send him to an Residential Treatment Center (RTC). But I've also come to realize that this is the part where my responsibility ends and his begins. Only he can make those choices that will keep him at home & in public school. Only he can choose to make the best use of all of his therapists, doctors, and support personnel. I can make sure everything he needs is there...but he has to take advantage of it. </p><p> </p><p>Now we just wait and see how he does....and what the new psychiatric evaluation says. I've had several docs say that they don't see the Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) behaviors he showed before, then I've had some who say they do see it in him. Hopefully, whatever labels the new psychiatric evaluation puts on him will help us get him the right treatments and programs in place to help him succeed.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hexemaus2, post: 193712, member: 4560"] klmno, I would LOVE to have our temp solution turn out to be enough for difficult child 2. That would be wonderful. And we are all leaving room for that possibility. If the temp solution turns out to be enough, then we'll stick with it. However, if it's not, we're still working on an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) placement. It would be a dream come true to get Residential Treatment Center (RTC) plans ready to go, only to have them not be necessary. I have to admit - the judge's [B]staff[/B] stinks (they threw up every road block available to keep me from gaining access to him...but I don't think they realized they were dealing with a Warrior Mom who wasn't gonna let up. lol) but the judge himself is wonderful. Shoots straight from the hip, no nonsense, and with a heavy dose of good old fashioned common sense. From what I understand, one of his kids was a difficult child...so I think that's probably why he is the kind of judge that he is. I know I'm glad to have him in our corner...definitely wouldn't want to be on his bad side though. He's ruthless when it comes to true juvenile delinquents who don't have any other issue than just being criminals. I have to say, a judge who utilizes a committee to help him with matters he doesn't have enough understanding/experience/personal knowledge of is really a great idea, in my opinion. To my understanding, his committee is made up of teachers, the psychiatrist, juvenile po's, and volunteer parents. A pretty good mix of opinions and resources if you ask me. The fact that the judge has the option to take cases "under advisement" and utilize that committee of his really has been a great benefit to difficult child 2. difficult child 2 is excited about starting public school, but also a little scared. (That's okay - so is his Mom. lol.) He knows (if he messes up) what's waiting for him on the other side. He spent a week in YDC earlier this year after he bit the officer & he sure doesn't want to go back there. I told him that for the next 12 weeks (or sooner if the judge calls us back before the 12 week RTI at school) he should think of Judge F sitting on his shoulder, watching everything. If he's not sure how to respond to a situation, he should think about how he would explain it to Judge F and see if that helps him to make better choices. The school is aware that he has pending charges with Department of Juvenile Justice. They're also aware of some of difficult child 2's other past issues. We're all on the same page that our #1 goal at this point is to get him adjusted to a new routine and most of all, get some positive experiences going for him so he has good stuff to look forward to. Maybe that will help remind him what he stands to lose if he doesn't get "Fluffy" under control. So far, the school staff has been extra supportive of both difficult child 2 and me...stressing for difficult child 2 that they are all there to help him do the best he can & we all want him to succeed. I've done all I can at this point. From here it's up to difficult child 2 to utilize the supports we've put in place so far and make the most of his situation. I hope and pray that he will. I really do. I'd absolutely LOVE to have our "temporary" fix turn out to be a permanent one. I'd much rather have him home and doing well than have to send him to an Residential Treatment Center (RTC). But I've also come to realize that this is the part where my responsibility ends and his begins. Only he can make those choices that will keep him at home & in public school. Only he can choose to make the best use of all of his therapists, doctors, and support personnel. I can make sure everything he needs is there...but he has to take advantage of it. Now we just wait and see how he does....and what the new psychiatric evaluation says. I've had several docs say that they don't see the Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) behaviors he showed before, then I've had some who say they do see it in him. Hopefully, whatever labels the new psychiatric evaluation puts on him will help us get him the right treatments and programs in place to help him succeed. [/QUOTE]
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