difficult child is in custody. He thought she was a flight risk. She will spend the next week in DT. The judge went back to the last time we were in his court room where he let difficult child go from JJS custody. He said "You hired "so and so" (our Lawyer that use to be the public defender in his court room) and you didnt think the system was working for you." (Yes there were problems-but we were not trying to get out) I could not let that go because that is not what we asked for. I stood and explained we were asking for continued help but because she tried to committ suicide in the care of this Residential Treatment Center (RTC), we could not send her back because we did not feel she was safe. He tried to nail me but the procecuting attorney, of all people, went back to the transcripts and told him what we were asking for. So my gut was right. He saw this attorney, decided we got him to get her out of the system (the lawyer's history) and didn't hear a word we said. And one year later here we are in the same mess with difficult child. Literally-there is such a small amount of progress. We go back next Friday-I will loose extra pay for teacher inservice-story of our lives with this kid. PO wants her to go to secure care-very little therapy there that meets her needs. I will insist on a DBT therapist if I have to pay for one. Judge said that if he had to decide today he would not send her there. Even the prosecuting attorney did not think this was a good idea. On the PO's side was the fact that she researched Borderline Personality and related that to everything that difficult child said to her. She is smart. She told us to send our recommends and she would get them to the attorney. She also said that she has had a tough week thinking about difficult child and what would help. The judge told difficult child-" I have never in all my years on this bench seen more loving parents who go the distance for their kid. That has never been a doubt for me. difficult child, you go back and talk to the other kids who are waiting to be transported to DT. You wont believe their family histories. When you finially get that you have amazing blessings, and talents, you will begin to heal." Boy did I need to hear that from him. He has been such a tough, moody, human to deal with. My husband and I at least have that to keep us strong. Please pray for us and that God will guide these tough situations.