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AmericanGirl
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difficult child has court tonight for the dui. I talked with attorney today alone. He said dashcam videos show it was a bad arrest and he could get difficult child off. Neither of us think that is the thing to do.
Attorney wanted to ask for delayed prosecution. difficult child does community service and keeps out of trouble, it disappears in six months. That way, difficult child can use youthful offender status next month at the third degree theft (in a nearby town). I'd like to see him have a hope of not having this stuff follow him through life if he does wake up and get help...while having consequences now. Make sense?
I then tell attorney some of the concerns I have learned from my keylogger. I also emailed him a scan of the bipolar script difficult child refuses to take.
Attorney's new plan includes asking for community service, weekly attendance at Celebrate Recovery meetings and counseling. Am praying DA will agree....who asks for MORE orders anyhow...why shouldn't he?
Of course, difficult child will never know about that conversation.
difficult child called me last night at 6 pm to ask what time court was. He thought it was yesterday. I told him right date and time. He was then so ugly to me that I hung up on him. Second time in a day doing that. Haven't hard from him today. Hoping he will show up.
Just proud I am getting better at drawing boundaries with him. Next time he is ugly, I am going online to cell phone service and restricting his phone so he can only call/text me. I'll hear from him shortly thereafter. Gonna restrict it for 24 hours every time he is ugly to me from now on. Long enough to make it hard on him and hopefully not too long so he will destroy phone.
Attorney wanted to ask for delayed prosecution. difficult child does community service and keeps out of trouble, it disappears in six months. That way, difficult child can use youthful offender status next month at the third degree theft (in a nearby town). I'd like to see him have a hope of not having this stuff follow him through life if he does wake up and get help...while having consequences now. Make sense?
I then tell attorney some of the concerns I have learned from my keylogger. I also emailed him a scan of the bipolar script difficult child refuses to take.
Attorney's new plan includes asking for community service, weekly attendance at Celebrate Recovery meetings and counseling. Am praying DA will agree....who asks for MORE orders anyhow...why shouldn't he?
Of course, difficult child will never know about that conversation.
difficult child called me last night at 6 pm to ask what time court was. He thought it was yesterday. I told him right date and time. He was then so ugly to me that I hung up on him. Second time in a day doing that. Haven't hard from him today. Hoping he will show up.
Just proud I am getting better at drawing boundaries with him. Next time he is ugly, I am going online to cell phone service and restricting his phone so he can only call/text me. I'll hear from him shortly thereafter. Gonna restrict it for 24 hours every time he is ugly to me from now on. Long enough to make it hard on him and hopefully not too long so he will destroy phone.