Sorry I havent been around but it seems alot of times I tend to shut everyone and everything out when things get bad.
Most of you may remember I posted a thread back in January "Arrested! Can anyone help?" Well here is the update since then.
I took almost 2 weeks off from work to deal with all the mental issues my son caused me by falsely accusing me of hitting him and being arrested. I ended up seeing a psychologist and put on Prozac to help deal with what I was dealing with.
After my son had me arrested, I ended up losing my job because of events that occurred due to the arrest. I had been on my job almost 3 years and this didnt make things any better. And since I lost my job, I lost my insurance so I was no longer able to see the psychologist. And unfortunately, since I don't have any children depending on me, haven't been able to find any assistance. Apparently, if you are alone, you are suppose to be able to make it work.
I haven't been able to get back to police dispatching due to the charge being family violence. And since the economy is so bad, haven't been able to find work anywhere else.
The municipal court in the city in which I live/was arrested had plans to move their court so they put off scheduling my jury trial for almost a year. I just went to court Dec 4.
Prior to the court date, I have not seen my son and have only talked to him 3 times. difficult child was very cold and very brief with me on the phone. I figure dex was either standing over him or recording the call. My sister did run into difficult child in the store and took picture and sent to me, didn't even look like him.
My son was 6'2" 243lbs when he left my house. difficult child is now 6'4" and weighs about 160(if that) within 2 months of moving to dex's, he dropped over 70lbs.
Once I got notice of the court date, I contacted the pharmacy to get records of the medications difficult child was taking. Just what I thought, dex had DOUBLED his medications which caused the dramatic weight loss.
Our day in court, my MOM and difficult child 1 were my witnesses. It turns out that difficult child told difficult child 1 when they ran away the night before that he was going to tell cops I hit him so he could go live with his father and if that didn't work, difficult child was going to hurt himself to leave bruises and say I did it so I would go to jail. I had all the police reports from 2 different cities and all citations from 3 different cities. difficult child sat on the stand and denied over half of them even though my attorney had them in hand and was reading from them.
difficult child's accusation was that we were sitting on the couch and he got up because he was done talking and I grabbed him and pinned him on the couch for no reason and then because he was trying to get up, I hit him in the back of the head with a partially closed fist.
The TRUTH...difficult child and I were sitting on the couch, difficult child flipped, threw himself back, hit his head on the wall behind the couch, stood up and started punching hisself in the face. I stood up, grabbed his arms trying to restrain him from hitting himself anymore. During the struggle, he went to his knees with chest on couch and I held him there till he calmed down.
I will save you from all the lies that he told in the court, THE CONCLUSION.....I was aquitted! The charge has been discharged...now I just have to pay to have the record espunged. Finally, I get some justice.
Dex did allow me to hug difficult child but difficult child was very cold and when I told him that I still loved him, his response was "ok." When difficult child was on the stand, he NEVER referred to me or my mom by mom and nana, he called us by names! I was devastated!
difficult child doesn't really look good. Even my attorney was able to tell that difficult child was sedated, extremely thin, black circles under his eyes and had blank stare on his face the entire time with mouth open a little...I just cried. difficult child showed NO emotion to anything.
So, naturally dex denies any problems and claims everything is awesome...whatever! I am sure they are since difficult child doesn't have energy to do anything. That is one thing I was trying to prevent when I had difficult child. I didn't want difficult child to be a zombie.
So, the charge is disposed of and I am hoping to get back into dispatching real soon. I miss difficult child but know that he could never live in my home again and I am still struggling with losing yet another child even if difficult child is still living and still questioning how and why difficult child could do any of that to me.
I just want to say THANKS for all the support from all of you here and the knowledge to make sure I document and save all records from the day I discovered this site. I honestly think all the records I had made my case. Dex was called as a witness for the state(difficult child) and he attempted to make it all my fault for difficult child's behavior. My attorney made very valid points that there were police reports, arrest reports, citations and discipline records from the school. My attoney was AMAZING!!!
Most of you may remember I posted a thread back in January "Arrested! Can anyone help?" Well here is the update since then.
I took almost 2 weeks off from work to deal with all the mental issues my son caused me by falsely accusing me of hitting him and being arrested. I ended up seeing a psychologist and put on Prozac to help deal with what I was dealing with.
After my son had me arrested, I ended up losing my job because of events that occurred due to the arrest. I had been on my job almost 3 years and this didnt make things any better. And since I lost my job, I lost my insurance so I was no longer able to see the psychologist. And unfortunately, since I don't have any children depending on me, haven't been able to find any assistance. Apparently, if you are alone, you are suppose to be able to make it work.
I haven't been able to get back to police dispatching due to the charge being family violence. And since the economy is so bad, haven't been able to find work anywhere else.
The municipal court in the city in which I live/was arrested had plans to move their court so they put off scheduling my jury trial for almost a year. I just went to court Dec 4.
Prior to the court date, I have not seen my son and have only talked to him 3 times. difficult child was very cold and very brief with me on the phone. I figure dex was either standing over him or recording the call. My sister did run into difficult child in the store and took picture and sent to me, didn't even look like him.
My son was 6'2" 243lbs when he left my house. difficult child is now 6'4" and weighs about 160(if that) within 2 months of moving to dex's, he dropped over 70lbs.
Once I got notice of the court date, I contacted the pharmacy to get records of the medications difficult child was taking. Just what I thought, dex had DOUBLED his medications which caused the dramatic weight loss.
Our day in court, my MOM and difficult child 1 were my witnesses. It turns out that difficult child told difficult child 1 when they ran away the night before that he was going to tell cops I hit him so he could go live with his father and if that didn't work, difficult child was going to hurt himself to leave bruises and say I did it so I would go to jail. I had all the police reports from 2 different cities and all citations from 3 different cities. difficult child sat on the stand and denied over half of them even though my attorney had them in hand and was reading from them.
difficult child's accusation was that we were sitting on the couch and he got up because he was done talking and I grabbed him and pinned him on the couch for no reason and then because he was trying to get up, I hit him in the back of the head with a partially closed fist.
The TRUTH...difficult child and I were sitting on the couch, difficult child flipped, threw himself back, hit his head on the wall behind the couch, stood up and started punching hisself in the face. I stood up, grabbed his arms trying to restrain him from hitting himself anymore. During the struggle, he went to his knees with chest on couch and I held him there till he calmed down.
I will save you from all the lies that he told in the court, THE CONCLUSION.....I was aquitted! The charge has been discharged...now I just have to pay to have the record espunged. Finally, I get some justice.
Dex did allow me to hug difficult child but difficult child was very cold and when I told him that I still loved him, his response was "ok." When difficult child was on the stand, he NEVER referred to me or my mom by mom and nana, he called us by names! I was devastated!
difficult child doesn't really look good. Even my attorney was able to tell that difficult child was sedated, extremely thin, black circles under his eyes and had blank stare on his face the entire time with mouth open a little...I just cried. difficult child showed NO emotion to anything.
So, naturally dex denies any problems and claims everything is awesome...whatever! I am sure they are since difficult child doesn't have energy to do anything. That is one thing I was trying to prevent when I had difficult child. I didn't want difficult child to be a zombie.
So, the charge is disposed of and I am hoping to get back into dispatching real soon. I miss difficult child but know that he could never live in my home again and I am still struggling with losing yet another child even if difficult child is still living and still questioning how and why difficult child could do any of that to me.
I just want to say THANKS for all the support from all of you here and the knowledge to make sure I document and save all records from the day I discovered this site. I honestly think all the records I had made my case. Dex was called as a witness for the state(difficult child) and he attempted to make it all my fault for difficult child's behavior. My attorney made very valid points that there were police reports, arrest reports, citations and discipline records from the school. My attoney was AMAZING!!!
