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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 410764" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>If you are leaving do not put all your hopes on getting this IEP and all being good wehrever you go. You will have to meet to make a new IEP with the new school. They will not just transfer her IEP from the old school and just give her all that you wroked out. </p><p> </p><p>I would first make an appointment with the CPS person. Or at least have a long enough call to get clarification from her. Ask how many reports have been made? All by one person, by a few different people from one group (like school), or a different person reporting each time. You need this to figure out how to address the issues with CPS.</p><p> </p><p>If each person that she would encounter at school, say principal, teacher and guidance counselor, sees an issue and reports it to CPS then there would basically be 3 reports for every issue. So you could get each letter from the doctor or hospital and make 3 copies - put one copy with each report adn be done iwth it. If all the reports are being made by the same 1 or 2 people who just keep calling with anything they can imagine it will tell the case worker different things. Iif she can see that all or even most of the reports are completely unfounded then she can give the reporter a warning for makine spurious abuse reports. Future reports from that person can be handled with a phone call so she can say she spoke to you, but nothing else would be needed. If there are a bunch of different people making reports then each ahs to be looked at for a while then the worker will be able to say they checked you out six ways from Sunday and it is all fine. It took almost 3 months for CPS to get any written info to us and it was 4 months before they closed the case. They didn't do anything after week 4 or 5 but it took that long to get it processed and see that other reports were not coming in. 3 months for multiple reports really is not very long. Years ago I had to give a deposition about an abuse case where I witnessed true neglect of one of Wiz' classmates. The mom RAN a Head Start 3yo program and left her son home alone until 2 am so she could go get stoned. She had another story about what she was doing, but I didn't care. I was told about week 9 that they wanted a deposition and it took about 3-4 months to even schedule it. I had to sign a written copy of what I said and that took another 6 weeks. These things don't go in a "timely" manner unless your version of timely is as fast as molasses running uphill in an Antarctic winter.</p><p> </p><p>After you figure out how many complaints are there, you can address them one at a time. Until then you will drive yourself batty.</p><p> </p><p>As for school, keep getting those doctor notes that she is not to attend school. Get the docs to write the note excusing for for a month or so at a time - "difficult child is unable to attend school because she is dealing with X and the effects make school attendance against medical advice. We will examine her progress in X weeks and re-evaluate at that time. Until then she is to be on home-study."</p><p> </p><p>Or whatever it is taht school needs it to say. GEt the doctor to give you a copy and to fax a copy to the school. YOU will send a copy to the school using the Post Office <strong>certified mail return receipt requested</strong>. This means the doctor will have the confirmation info from the fax (might be good to ask for a copy of that verification), you will have the receipt from the certified letter with the signature of the person who accepted the letter, and school cannot say they don't have it. Keep the fax confirmations from the doctor, copy of the doctor's note, and your receipt with your notes about what you sent, when and to whom. </p><p> </p><p>Do this every month or however long the school needs. School may decide they want another doctor to evaluate her. Don't be afraid of this. Have yoru parent report ready to go and go. Make it very clear to the school and to the doctor's office that you will be there with difficult child but you will NOT PAY for this second opinion. If school tries to bully you then go to the sp ed 101 section here and ask how to prove to them that they bear the cost of the 2nd opinion - because they DO.</p><p> </p><p>Start teasing out these things and do all you can to take care of YOU. </p><p> </p><p>Lots of gentle hugs.</p><p> </p><p>That needs to be handled differently and separately from the IEP. I know it is hard, but it is what it is.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 410764, member: 1233"] If you are leaving do not put all your hopes on getting this IEP and all being good wehrever you go. You will have to meet to make a new IEP with the new school. They will not just transfer her IEP from the old school and just give her all that you wroked out. I would first make an appointment with the CPS person. Or at least have a long enough call to get clarification from her. Ask how many reports have been made? All by one person, by a few different people from one group (like school), or a different person reporting each time. You need this to figure out how to address the issues with CPS. If each person that she would encounter at school, say principal, teacher and guidance counselor, sees an issue and reports it to CPS then there would basically be 3 reports for every issue. So you could get each letter from the doctor or hospital and make 3 copies - put one copy with each report adn be done iwth it. If all the reports are being made by the same 1 or 2 people who just keep calling with anything they can imagine it will tell the case worker different things. Iif she can see that all or even most of the reports are completely unfounded then she can give the reporter a warning for makine spurious abuse reports. Future reports from that person can be handled with a phone call so she can say she spoke to you, but nothing else would be needed. If there are a bunch of different people making reports then each ahs to be looked at for a while then the worker will be able to say they checked you out six ways from Sunday and it is all fine. It took almost 3 months for CPS to get any written info to us and it was 4 months before they closed the case. They didn't do anything after week 4 or 5 but it took that long to get it processed and see that other reports were not coming in. 3 months for multiple reports really is not very long. Years ago I had to give a deposition about an abuse case where I witnessed true neglect of one of Wiz' classmates. The mom RAN a Head Start 3yo program and left her son home alone until 2 am so she could go get stoned. She had another story about what she was doing, but I didn't care. I was told about week 9 that they wanted a deposition and it took about 3-4 months to even schedule it. I had to sign a written copy of what I said and that took another 6 weeks. These things don't go in a "timely" manner unless your version of timely is as fast as molasses running uphill in an Antarctic winter. After you figure out how many complaints are there, you can address them one at a time. Until then you will drive yourself batty. As for school, keep getting those doctor notes that she is not to attend school. Get the docs to write the note excusing for for a month or so at a time - "difficult child is unable to attend school because she is dealing with X and the effects make school attendance against medical advice. We will examine her progress in X weeks and re-evaluate at that time. Until then she is to be on home-study." Or whatever it is taht school needs it to say. GEt the doctor to give you a copy and to fax a copy to the school. YOU will send a copy to the school using the Post Office [B]certified mail return receipt requested[/B]. This means the doctor will have the confirmation info from the fax (might be good to ask for a copy of that verification), you will have the receipt from the certified letter with the signature of the person who accepted the letter, and school cannot say they don't have it. Keep the fax confirmations from the doctor, copy of the doctor's note, and your receipt with your notes about what you sent, when and to whom. Do this every month or however long the school needs. School may decide they want another doctor to evaluate her. Don't be afraid of this. Have yoru parent report ready to go and go. Make it very clear to the school and to the doctor's office that you will be there with difficult child but you will NOT PAY for this second opinion. If school tries to bully you then go to the sp ed 101 section here and ask how to prove to them that they bear the cost of the 2nd opinion - because they DO. Start teasing out these things and do all you can to take care of YOU. Lots of gentle hugs. That needs to be handled differently and separately from the IEP. I know it is hard, but it is what it is. [/QUOTE]
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