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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 411064" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Jen CAN pull her our and homeschool her, but she is already carrying to much with this child. Homeschooling her difficult child is going to be a GIANT problem and is more than she can handle. It is also more than difficult child could handle. Her difficult child will do work for the tutors a LOT more often than for Jena. Jena gets a fight, meltdown, intense grief etc.... The tutor doesn't seem to get much of this. </p><p> </p><p>Jen will have to give NY a list of the curriculum and then have her daughter tested to show that she is making progress. She also may be asked to produce records of what and when they did school stuff. NY requries these are part of the laws for homeschooling (I helped her look them up) and they give the school district a LOT of latitude for supervising homeschooled kids. If the district wanted they could actually insist on seeing lesson plans every quarter and much more. If she changes curriculum she actually has to notify them!!! In OH we had to give a curriculum list but it was against the law for them to ask us if we actually used those items - how OH law was written at the time. Heck, here in OK all I had to do was give them a letter saying I was homeschooling her. PERIOD. They like yearly test results, but I can write them a letter saying she has progressed normally for a child in her age/grade and let that be that. </p><p> </p><p>Jen, you CANNOT demand that the school stop calling CPS. I don't think that is legal. You can explain all the BS that they are pulliIng iwht all the calls for absolutely nothing, but I would NOT tell them that if they continue to call CPS you will sue. I do not believe you can sue someone, esp an educator or school, for calling CPS unless there is a long history of malicious reporting. You have to PROVE malice - not say that they don't like you. </p><p> </p><p>I don't think this talk with the superintendent will accomplish much that is positive. I URGE you to find a free advocate and have them with you every time you meet with anyone from the school. OR else get a lawyer and have the lawyer handle all of the communication with the school. Otherwise you jsut are not going to get anywhere good.</p><p> </p><p>Getting a person to do the talk therapy is one of the best ideas you have ever had. It won't be easy because they won't be available the hours that you are and they won't do it the way you will. It WILL benefit you BOTH. You are not trained to do therapy. Yeah, you may have good instincts, but all the good instincts in the world are not enough when the patient is as deeply disturbed as your child. It truly is not healthy for either of you for you to continue to be her therapist. I know it happened because you have such a hard time finding people to work with and I really do understand. But if you want difficult child to get better then she really needs someone else to handle this with her.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 411064, member: 1233"] Jen CAN pull her our and homeschool her, but she is already carrying to much with this child. Homeschooling her difficult child is going to be a GIANT problem and is more than she can handle. It is also more than difficult child could handle. Her difficult child will do work for the tutors a LOT more often than for Jena. Jena gets a fight, meltdown, intense grief etc.... The tutor doesn't seem to get much of this. Jen will have to give NY a list of the curriculum and then have her daughter tested to show that she is making progress. She also may be asked to produce records of what and when they did school stuff. NY requries these are part of the laws for homeschooling (I helped her look them up) and they give the school district a LOT of latitude for supervising homeschooled kids. If the district wanted they could actually insist on seeing lesson plans every quarter and much more. If she changes curriculum she actually has to notify them!!! In OH we had to give a curriculum list but it was against the law for them to ask us if we actually used those items - how OH law was written at the time. Heck, here in OK all I had to do was give them a letter saying I was homeschooling her. PERIOD. They like yearly test results, but I can write them a letter saying she has progressed normally for a child in her age/grade and let that be that. Jen, you CANNOT demand that the school stop calling CPS. I don't think that is legal. You can explain all the BS that they are pulliIng iwht all the calls for absolutely nothing, but I would NOT tell them that if they continue to call CPS you will sue. I do not believe you can sue someone, esp an educator or school, for calling CPS unless there is a long history of malicious reporting. You have to PROVE malice - not say that they don't like you. I don't think this talk with the superintendent will accomplish much that is positive. I URGE you to find a free advocate and have them with you every time you meet with anyone from the school. OR else get a lawyer and have the lawyer handle all of the communication with the school. Otherwise you jsut are not going to get anywhere good. Getting a person to do the talk therapy is one of the best ideas you have ever had. It won't be easy because they won't be available the hours that you are and they won't do it the way you will. It WILL benefit you BOTH. You are not trained to do therapy. Yeah, you may have good instincts, but all the good instincts in the world are not enough when the patient is as deeply disturbed as your child. It truly is not healthy for either of you for you to continue to be her therapist. I know it happened because you have such a hard time finding people to work with and I really do understand. But if you want difficult child to get better then she really needs someone else to handle this with her. [/QUOTE]
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