Hello all,
I have had a hard time writing this post. I had such high hopes for difficult child and she seemed to be doing so well.
And then . . . her boyfriend, Peter Pan, up and moved to Colorado about a month ago. difficult child has been spiraling down ever since. Fear of abandonment is a key trait of borderlines and this has hit her hard. I kept hoping the DBT therapy could stop the slide but difficult child is drinking again and out of control.
I knew the signs but didn't want to face it. She is still working but I don't know how long that will last. husband and I met with her DBT therapist last Tuesday. difficult child was supposed to come but didn't show up. The therapist told us that she thought that difficult child was at the point that she needed long-term inpatient hospitalization and asked us who our insurance was with. I reminded her that difficult child didn't have any insurance and asked how much the hospitalization would cost. She said the ones that she liked would be at least 7000-11000 a month.
How in the world could we afford that? The therapist mentioned that there was a public p-hospital about an hour away from here but said that the people there were seriously crazy to the point of hurting each other. She didn't think it was the place for difficult child.
So then we discussed another sober house that some of the other people in difficult child's DBT group live in. It is "only" $1600 a month (not including food). That would be in addition to the $1000 a month we spend on DBT. difficult child's salary would have to go towards the rent but that would still leave us with a huge payment per month.
I guess it is all a moot point. difficult child is saying she won't go to another half-way house and will not be committed. She is talking about moving out to Colorado to live with Peter Pan. I would give that about 2 weeks before he threw her out.
difficult child is threatening to kill herself again. In fact, we had another episode yesterday after I had breathalyzed her (she blew .13) where she went down and turned her car on inside the closed garage. I heard the car and ran down and used my phone to take a video for a few seconds before I opened the garage door. I called 911 and you are not going to believe this . . . difficult child claimed she was about to leave and hadn't opened the door yet and the police told me that there was nothing they could do. I showed them the video and they said that is was not against the law to try to kill yourself in Georgia.
They told me that if I had a witness I could go to the court and get her involuntarily committed but since it was just my word against difficult child's, there was nothing they could do.
We served difficult child the eviction notice today. So now we have 30 days of hell waiting for the eviction period to end. At this point, I wouldn't mind if she went to Colorado. We could stop paying for the DBT and difficult child could find out what it is truly like to end up alone with no money or family to rescue her. husband seriously suggested paying for her plane ticket.
~Kathy
I have had a hard time writing this post. I had such high hopes for difficult child and she seemed to be doing so well.
And then . . . her boyfriend, Peter Pan, up and moved to Colorado about a month ago. difficult child has been spiraling down ever since. Fear of abandonment is a key trait of borderlines and this has hit her hard. I kept hoping the DBT therapy could stop the slide but difficult child is drinking again and out of control.
I knew the signs but didn't want to face it. She is still working but I don't know how long that will last. husband and I met with her DBT therapist last Tuesday. difficult child was supposed to come but didn't show up. The therapist told us that she thought that difficult child was at the point that she needed long-term inpatient hospitalization and asked us who our insurance was with. I reminded her that difficult child didn't have any insurance and asked how much the hospitalization would cost. She said the ones that she liked would be at least 7000-11000 a month.
How in the world could we afford that? The therapist mentioned that there was a public p-hospital about an hour away from here but said that the people there were seriously crazy to the point of hurting each other. She didn't think it was the place for difficult child.
So then we discussed another sober house that some of the other people in difficult child's DBT group live in. It is "only" $1600 a month (not including food). That would be in addition to the $1000 a month we spend on DBT. difficult child's salary would have to go towards the rent but that would still leave us with a huge payment per month.
I guess it is all a moot point. difficult child is saying she won't go to another half-way house and will not be committed. She is talking about moving out to Colorado to live with Peter Pan. I would give that about 2 weeks before he threw her out.
difficult child is threatening to kill herself again. In fact, we had another episode yesterday after I had breathalyzed her (she blew .13) where she went down and turned her car on inside the closed garage. I heard the car and ran down and used my phone to take a video for a few seconds before I opened the garage door. I called 911 and you are not going to believe this . . . difficult child claimed she was about to leave and hadn't opened the door yet and the police told me that there was nothing they could do. I showed them the video and they said that is was not against the law to try to kill yourself in Georgia.
They told me that if I had a witness I could go to the court and get her involuntarily committed but since it was just my word against difficult child's, there was nothing they could do.
We served difficult child the eviction notice today. So now we have 30 days of hell waiting for the eviction period to end. At this point, I wouldn't mind if she went to Colorado. We could stop paying for the DBT and difficult child could find out what it is truly like to end up alone with no money or family to rescue her. husband seriously suggested paying for her plane ticket.
~Kathy