This may be soooo crazy to put this put there like this, but my emotions are torn and I guess I'm just looking for advise. Or for someone to say I'm over thinking this situation. My 20 year old difficult child (soon to be 21) is living in my home while he is trying to enlist in the National Guard. He's been back home for a little while now, after being kicked out for using drugs, etc. My original story is on here. Anyway, I've been dating a guy for over 14 years. I know, so many think that it's crazy that we aren't married yet. But we are engaged, and we will marry. There's been a few obstacles along the way, and truth be told, I haven't been in any hurry. We love each other, and that's what's important. So, last night, we cooked out and rented a few movies from Red Box. My difficult child and his girlfriend were here, and they watched one of the movies with us. It was a pleasant evening. He went to take her home around midnight. He came back and went upstairs to bed. Evidently, he got up at some point and heard my fiancé and I having sex. Ugh. And it's not that it was even loud, it's just that the downstairs was totally silent. Of course the bedroom door was shut and locked. So this morning, he gets up around 11:00 and leaves without saying a word. I sent him a text asking where he ran off to. His reply was that he needed some space. I asked what from? My heart started to race because I immediately thought the unthinkable...that he did hear us. His reply was from me and my fiancé. He said he heard something last night that he didn't need to hear and that he just needed to stay away from the house today. He said he is permanently scarred. He said for the first time in 20 years, he heard his mom having sex and that it was a "nasty thought". I tried to explain to him that I'm an adult, and that my private, intimate life shouldn't concern him like this. And that a healthy, committed relationship consists of engaging in (responsible) sex. Nothing I say matters. I've scarred him. I've always been extremely cautious about this situation. And I've always preached to him about safe sex, etc. The birds and the bees. And now I feel guilty. But I'm also perturbed. That kid has run my life and made it a living hell for the last 5 years. And now I'm being punished because I had sex with my fiancé of FOURTEEN years. How would any of you react?