I made up with my long term friend about not getting an invite to her son's wedding. I ordered a moderately priced gift from the registry. We are fine.
Background: it took her awhile to understand what it is like having a difficult child but, one day she tried to help difficult child and got burned. Between that and all my stories, she "gets it." And she has been very understanding, kind and supportive.
Flash forward: shortly after we spoke about the wedding "issue," she started relaxing again and let it be known that her husband was mad at me. She implied he wasn't being realistic about the wedding...but I was unsure what that meant. Kind of like blaming him. BUT she continued with that he also thinks I don't do enough for difficult child and that's why she is a difficult child! "but" she says..."I tried to explain to him what having a difficult child is really like...although he doesn't understand...."
Say what? Her spouse is going through a terrible time in his life having been unemployed for a few years....losing an excellent job, etc. BUT, doesn't that seem like a low blow????
Honestly, I don't know how much more I can take. I didn't say much, except that I'm glad she understands. Then quickly got off the phone.
Truth is stranger than fiction. I'm exhausted.i just hope our friendship can survive. Not sure if our/my relationship with him will.
Background: it took her awhile to understand what it is like having a difficult child but, one day she tried to help difficult child and got burned. Between that and all my stories, she "gets it." And she has been very understanding, kind and supportive.
Flash forward: shortly after we spoke about the wedding "issue," she started relaxing again and let it be known that her husband was mad at me. She implied he wasn't being realistic about the wedding...but I was unsure what that meant. Kind of like blaming him. BUT she continued with that he also thinks I don't do enough for difficult child and that's why she is a difficult child! "but" she says..."I tried to explain to him what having a difficult child is really like...although he doesn't understand...."
Say what? Her spouse is going through a terrible time in his life having been unemployed for a few years....losing an excellent job, etc. BUT, doesn't that seem like a low blow????
Honestly, I don't know how much more I can take. I didn't say much, except that I'm glad she understands. Then quickly got off the phone.
Truth is stranger than fiction. I'm exhausted.i just hope our friendship can survive. Not sure if our/my relationship with him will.