Family has been on my mind a great deal since my mother's death. I've thought of all the family rituals & celebrations that Mom created. Mom, was in all honesty, the center of those family celebrations. The camping trips, annual cook offs, golf trips, etc, etc, etc. I've missed out on many of the gatherings because of emergencies & such from one tweedle or another. I'm not angry over that - it's just life with a difficult child. So I'm looking for ideas for more immediate family rituals. Celebrations of family. My dad has planted & is growing a chestnut tree from chestnuts that have fallen in his yard for each of us to plant in our yards. The tree in my dad's yard came from the family farm. I have peonies & iris's that have come from my parent's yard that started at the old family farm. We've put together recipe books from our cook offs; a new ritual will be the annual Christmas cookie bake. I appreciate the tradition - the passing on of history. I would like kt & wm to have a part of these celebrations; understand the importance of family rituals. I would like to believe that having celebrations of this sort would help my difficult children gain a sense of self - of permanency. Given the tweedles limitations, to put it kindly, what recommendations would you offer me for a family ritual/celebration - just one that kt & wm can handle? Keeping in mind that kt & wm tolerate being in the same setting with one another no more than 30 minutes or so. That wm cannot tolerate my presence for more than an hour. We used to go on annual camping trips with my siblings - kt & wm cannot handle that. It could be that I'm grasping at straws; could be that I'm in the midst of grieving & am having bittersweet thoughts on this "family of different addresses" concept.