I am finally ready to admit I am an enabler. The family and I walk on eggshells trying to prevent explosions, which for obvious reasons does not work. I know difficult child can control herself, I have seen it. My constant pacifying has not helped one bit. I have known this all along but finally feel strong enough to put an end to it. It seems the family is finally getting on the same page. We have all agreed to work together on not reacting to difficult child. The family and I would like to sit with difficult child and let her know we will not tolerate the behavior anymore. I do not want difficult child to feel this is a personal attack, but I know, no matter how it's phrased, it will be viewed it that way. She refuses to acknowledge her unacceptable behavior. It's always somebody else's fault. I realize I am making the choice to take an equally if not more challenging path but whatever happens, certainly can not be worse than what we are dealing with now. I am done making excuses, done pacifying and done enabling. Wish me luck!