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<blockquote data-quote="JMom" data-source="post: 758110" data-attributes="member: 19892"><p>Hey Newstart,</p><p></p><p>The thing about crumbs is they taste just as good as the whole dang cookie. But much like cookie crumbs, they leave you craving more. It is hard to not scoop up the bits and pieces we crave. I do not envy you one bit. Lets hope Mr. Handsome finds a new lady and moves on. I have a 50 year old brother, living with my mom and he too, finds women to "help" him. </p><p></p><p>It is infuriating to watch someone live off of someone else's hard earned money. It was interesting to me that your daughter can see the filth in other's homes, but not her own. I guess she is just too close to the situation. I am sorry that you are having to put in so much work to clean up that house. I too, often felt responsible to clean up my son's messes. Does your daughter have a messy house because he lived there? Does she contribute to the mess? The reason I ask is 1) out of curiosity since she can see it in others and 2) I am curious if this is a pattern of hers that you will help to clean up once he is gone (for a longer period of time)?</p><p></p><p>To speak to your question-how long can you tolerate this?-That is going to be your call. I have a feeling that after all the work you are contributing to this clean up, it may be easier to answer that question. I too, get disheartened when I am cleaning up someone else's mess. I get mad at myself for being involved. I can't tell you how many times I have been cleaning something up and getting so mad-like-where the hell is (insert person's name) and how did I get myself into this? You didn't make that mess, why do you feel obligated to clean it up? I say this to suggest that if your daughter had to clean up the mess alone-she too, might get fed up enough that she never allows him to come back.</p><p></p><p>I can 100% relate to cleaning up my kids mess in order to not inconvenience other people who didn't give birth to him. I get it, no judgment here. I hope that your daughter is there with you 100% to clean the mess-it sounds like she is. Best wishes to you. Get you a bubble bath and put your feet up mama-you deserve a break!</p><p></p><p>Hugs,</p><p>JMOM</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JMom, post: 758110, member: 19892"] Hey Newstart, The thing about crumbs is they taste just as good as the whole dang cookie. But much like cookie crumbs, they leave you craving more. It is hard to not scoop up the bits and pieces we crave. I do not envy you one bit. Lets hope Mr. Handsome finds a new lady and moves on. I have a 50 year old brother, living with my mom and he too, finds women to "help" him. It is infuriating to watch someone live off of someone else's hard earned money. It was interesting to me that your daughter can see the filth in other's homes, but not her own. I guess she is just too close to the situation. I am sorry that you are having to put in so much work to clean up that house. I too, often felt responsible to clean up my son's messes. Does your daughter have a messy house because he lived there? Does she contribute to the mess? The reason I ask is 1) out of curiosity since she can see it in others and 2) I am curious if this is a pattern of hers that you will help to clean up once he is gone (for a longer period of time)? To speak to your question-how long can you tolerate this?-That is going to be your call. I have a feeling that after all the work you are contributing to this clean up, it may be easier to answer that question. I too, get disheartened when I am cleaning up someone else's mess. I get mad at myself for being involved. I can't tell you how many times I have been cleaning something up and getting so mad-like-where the hell is (insert person's name) and how did I get myself into this? You didn't make that mess, why do you feel obligated to clean it up? I say this to suggest that if your daughter had to clean up the mess alone-she too, might get fed up enough that she never allows him to come back. I can 100% relate to cleaning up my kids mess in order to not inconvenience other people who didn't give birth to him. I get it, no judgment here. I hope that your daughter is there with you 100% to clean the mess-it sounds like she is. Best wishes to you. Get you a bubble bath and put your feet up mama-you deserve a break! Hugs, JMOM [/QUOTE]
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