JJJ
Active Member
I am so tired of "good enough" meaning that one has met the bare minimum requirements. When did "good enough" stop meaning one's 100% best to meet the top requirements. I get that not everyone is going to Harvard, inventing a cure for cancer or signing a mega-million dollar NBA contract. But why, oh why, is it so horrible to push children to their limits and a bit beyond??? (Not talking abour pushing a difficult child into a rage, but pushing any child to exceed expectations -- especially in school!).
Piglet has an average IQ and a decent, but not great, work ethic. I have been hounding her every single day to do her summer school work correctly and completely. She has no problem doing the minimum asked by the teacher (fill out worksheets, color maps, etc.) but truly does not get why I expect her to READ every chapter and take outline notes on it and why I expect her to study every single item on the study guide. I admit, the pacing of summer school stinks. She is spending about 4 hours per day working on it but part of that is her dawdling and part is her slow reading ability.
The part that drives me up a wall if her true feeling that an 82 is good enough because it is a B-. I have told her anything less than an A on her report card will result in loss of privileges. She is quite capable of getting an A. And to be honest, if I see her working hard for that A and she got a B- because that truly was the limit of her abilities, that would also be acceptable. Currently, her effort is about 80% of her best effort so I am not surprised that she is getting Bs. After one day of 90 minutes of sobbing, she has complied pretty well with doing the work, even if she isn't trying her best.
She is my only one with the potential to go to a real college. She does have career goals that require her to have a masters degree. I will not let her blow it as a freshman because she does not get how important each and every high school grade is to that almighty admission formula. Especially because she does not test well and her ACT score will be very low compared to her abilities. Her GPA and class rank will be a vital part of her college application. A B- puts a student in the bottom 1/3 of the class rankings. The top 10 seniors all graduate with a 5.3 or higher (A=4, A+=4.33, plus the bump for honors/AP classes).
She has the potential of getting some money through an athletic scholarship but she will need some academic money to supplement that plus the little we have been able to save. One school she is looking at does a sliding scale tuition based on GPA and ACT score. The difference between a C average and an A average is $12,000.
I'msick of the push back from the school and everyone that I am pushing her too hard and that a B should be acceptable, even if she could get an A if she really tried!
Piglet has an average IQ and a decent, but not great, work ethic. I have been hounding her every single day to do her summer school work correctly and completely. She has no problem doing the minimum asked by the teacher (fill out worksheets, color maps, etc.) but truly does not get why I expect her to READ every chapter and take outline notes on it and why I expect her to study every single item on the study guide. I admit, the pacing of summer school stinks. She is spending about 4 hours per day working on it but part of that is her dawdling and part is her slow reading ability.
The part that drives me up a wall if her true feeling that an 82 is good enough because it is a B-. I have told her anything less than an A on her report card will result in loss of privileges. She is quite capable of getting an A. And to be honest, if I see her working hard for that A and she got a B- because that truly was the limit of her abilities, that would also be acceptable. Currently, her effort is about 80% of her best effort so I am not surprised that she is getting Bs. After one day of 90 minutes of sobbing, she has complied pretty well with doing the work, even if she isn't trying her best.
She is my only one with the potential to go to a real college. She does have career goals that require her to have a masters degree. I will not let her blow it as a freshman because she does not get how important each and every high school grade is to that almighty admission formula. Especially because she does not test well and her ACT score will be very low compared to her abilities. Her GPA and class rank will be a vital part of her college application. A B- puts a student in the bottom 1/3 of the class rankings. The top 10 seniors all graduate with a 5.3 or higher (A=4, A+=4.33, plus the bump for honors/AP classes).
She has the potential of getting some money through an athletic scholarship but she will need some academic money to supplement that plus the little we have been able to save. One school she is looking at does a sliding scale tuition based on GPA and ACT score. The difference between a C average and an A average is $12,000.
I'msick of the push back from the school and everyone that I am pushing her too hard and that a B should be acceptable, even if she could get an A if she really tried!