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<blockquote data-quote="Blindsided" data-source="post: 754930" data-attributes="member: 23811"><p>New Leaf, I am so livid right now! WHAT????? kids need to see their mom to understand??? These are children. This person is asking them to be adults. in my humble opinion any reunification efforts, and that doesn't mean custody, should be at the lead and discretion of a specialist in child psychology. Your Difficult Child gave up her moral rights to be forced on her already traumatized children. It's obvious to me she has not accepted responsibility for her behavior and that she doesn't give a care about anyone but herself, or she would never try to force herself on children who do not want her brand of affection, especially her own. Why would this soc. worker think the children have a need to know any of this right now? Have the children asked? From what you shared, that would be a resounding NO! It's common sense. In fairness to the social worker, your Difficult Child may be manipulating and the soc. worker is not educated on behavioral disorders and mental health, maybe it's time. </p><p></p><p>The laws don't always protect everyone. Definitely speak with the children's therapist. Try to get what you can in writing or recording anytime you speak with that social worker again or any for that matter. I seldom get so riled up to speak my opinion, but these children are defenseless and you care enough to take on the task of providing for them and protecting them. I suggest starting a journal, today! Date, time, person, length of discussion, topics discussed, plan of action, etc. As a nurse paralegal I can tell you, if it isn't documented, it didn't happen. It seems you are the children's only advocate in this particular situation.</p><p></p><p>My sibling is nearly finished raising granddaughter who is now in college, and daughter (bio-mom, meth addict, and severely mentally ill as a result) is living with them now, after being on the streets drugging for months, which she has done for many years now. It is my siblings way of dealing, but the bottom line is that my great niece resents her bio-mom beyond belief. She was able to figure things out in due time. She has been on medications and in therapy herself. </p><p></p><p>I hope I expressed something you find useful. My heart breaks for all involved. I am sending wishes for your Difficult Child to be surrounded by helpful, caring people who show her the best way. I am sending wishes for you to find the right person to help you navigate all of this so you all have the best outcome. That is a prayer I often have for my Difficult Child and for myself.</p><p></p><p>In healing, Blindsided</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Blindsided, post: 754930, member: 23811"] New Leaf, I am so livid right now! WHAT????? kids need to see their mom to understand??? These are children. This person is asking them to be adults. in my humble opinion any reunification efforts, and that doesn't mean custody, should be at the lead and discretion of a specialist in child psychology. Your Difficult Child gave up her moral rights to be forced on her already traumatized children. It's obvious to me she has not accepted responsibility for her behavior and that she doesn't give a care about anyone but herself, or she would never try to force herself on children who do not want her brand of affection, especially her own. Why would this soc. worker think the children have a need to know any of this right now? Have the children asked? From what you shared, that would be a resounding NO! It's common sense. In fairness to the social worker, your Difficult Child may be manipulating and the soc. worker is not educated on behavioral disorders and mental health, maybe it's time. The laws don't always protect everyone. Definitely speak with the children's therapist. Try to get what you can in writing or recording anytime you speak with that social worker again or any for that matter. I seldom get so riled up to speak my opinion, but these children are defenseless and you care enough to take on the task of providing for them and protecting them. I suggest starting a journal, today! Date, time, person, length of discussion, topics discussed, plan of action, etc. As a nurse paralegal I can tell you, if it isn't documented, it didn't happen. It seems you are the children's only advocate in this particular situation. My sibling is nearly finished raising granddaughter who is now in college, and daughter (bio-mom, meth addict, and severely mentally ill as a result) is living with them now, after being on the streets drugging for months, which she has done for many years now. It is my siblings way of dealing, but the bottom line is that my great niece resents her bio-mom beyond belief. She was able to figure things out in due time. She has been on medications and in therapy herself. I hope I expressed something you find useful. My heart breaks for all involved. I am sending wishes for your Difficult Child to be surrounded by helpful, caring people who show her the best way. I am sending wishes for you to find the right person to help you navigate all of this so you all have the best outcome. That is a prayer I often have for my Difficult Child and for myself. In healing, Blindsided [/QUOTE]
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