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<blockquote data-quote="lmf64" data-source="post: 316842" data-attributes="member: 7736"><p>I posted last night in the watercooler about some trouble we were having with some kids posting videos of my son on youtube. I was so angry they are lucky none of them tried to pull anything last night or I would be sitting in jail now I'm sure. </p><p>So, this morning I went to the high school and had a conversation with the principal. He couldn't do much since nothing actually happened at the school, but he is now on notice that I will not tolerate my son being bullied in any form. </p><p>I had a conversation with the school police liason officer. He also couldn't do much, but did help. He helped me to put full names to two of the kids. He also called the parents of one of the two. He couldn't call the parents of the other, since he is 18 and legally responsible for his own actions. But he could, and did, have a conversation with the boy between classes and a conversation with the basketball coach for whom the boy plays as a star athlete. I don't know which of the conversations had more effect (I know the coach called the kid to his office after talking to the officer, please don't ask me how I know) but whichever it was (or the combo of the two) worked. </p><p>The high school students are out of school at 3:10 and at 3:25 I had four of the six kids involved at my door, offering sincere (in my opinion) apologies. Both difficult child and I told them we accepted their apologies and I told the kids I was very disappointed in them and that I would only allow difficult child to associated with any of them in groups of no more than 2 while they were directly supervised by either myself or PCA. They are not to come to our property if they do not see either my or PCA car. I also told difficult child that he is not allowed to go to their house (yes 4/6 identified are from one house) unless I am home and then only to do something in the backyard since I can see their backyard directly from my house.</p><p>The fifth student, the other one I could put a name to, is from the middle school. His parents were called by the officer, (but this is also the same kid who a couple weeks ago was shining a laser light in our windows and caught by an officer who spoke to the parents at that time and the next day he was out unsupervised again) came over about 20 minutes later with a half hearted apology. He said I'm sorry I posted the videos without your permission difficult child, to which I said you don't think you have something else to apologize for? He finally said 'and teasing you' under his breath practically. I told him that he is not welcome at our house at any time until further notice.</p><p>I haven't heard from the sixth student yet and probably won't, but if I do he will be told the same thing as the fifth. </p><p>My son wanted me to sit with him at bedtime last night. Today he was very confident at school. His teacher called me late this afternoon to talk. She said she could tell that he was relieved to have me take care of the situation before it got any bigger and that they are going to do a class on what to do if you are bullied and what bullying (cyber and real life) is so he can help his peers to know that they don't have to just take it. </p><p>I am wrung out. I was so angry for so long that now that I'm not I have a headache to end all headaches, but like I always say ya do what ya gotta do.</p><p>Edited to add: the videos were removed before the first group came to the house and I will check often to make sure there are no more posted and the mother of the group wrote me an apology note with her phone number and assured me that the cell phones/cameras/internet would be taken away from her kids. I hope the kids can prove themselves to be the good kids I thought they were and earn their priveleges back.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lmf64, post: 316842, member: 7736"] I posted last night in the watercooler about some trouble we were having with some kids posting videos of my son on youtube. I was so angry they are lucky none of them tried to pull anything last night or I would be sitting in jail now I'm sure. So, this morning I went to the high school and had a conversation with the principal. He couldn't do much since nothing actually happened at the school, but he is now on notice that I will not tolerate my son being bullied in any form. I had a conversation with the school police liason officer. He also couldn't do much, but did help. He helped me to put full names to two of the kids. He also called the parents of one of the two. He couldn't call the parents of the other, since he is 18 and legally responsible for his own actions. But he could, and did, have a conversation with the boy between classes and a conversation with the basketball coach for whom the boy plays as a star athlete. I don't know which of the conversations had more effect (I know the coach called the kid to his office after talking to the officer, please don't ask me how I know) but whichever it was (or the combo of the two) worked. The high school students are out of school at 3:10 and at 3:25 I had four of the six kids involved at my door, offering sincere (in my opinion) apologies. Both difficult child and I told them we accepted their apologies and I told the kids I was very disappointed in them and that I would only allow difficult child to associated with any of them in groups of no more than 2 while they were directly supervised by either myself or PCA. They are not to come to our property if they do not see either my or PCA car. I also told difficult child that he is not allowed to go to their house (yes 4/6 identified are from one house) unless I am home and then only to do something in the backyard since I can see their backyard directly from my house. The fifth student, the other one I could put a name to, is from the middle school. His parents were called by the officer, (but this is also the same kid who a couple weeks ago was shining a laser light in our windows and caught by an officer who spoke to the parents at that time and the next day he was out unsupervised again) came over about 20 minutes later with a half hearted apology. He said I'm sorry I posted the videos without your permission difficult child, to which I said you don't think you have something else to apologize for? He finally said 'and teasing you' under his breath practically. I told him that he is not welcome at our house at any time until further notice. I haven't heard from the sixth student yet and probably won't, but if I do he will be told the same thing as the fifth. My son wanted me to sit with him at bedtime last night. Today he was very confident at school. His teacher called me late this afternoon to talk. She said she could tell that he was relieved to have me take care of the situation before it got any bigger and that they are going to do a class on what to do if you are bullied and what bullying (cyber and real life) is so he can help his peers to know that they don't have to just take it. I am wrung out. I was so angry for so long that now that I'm not I have a headache to end all headaches, but like I always say ya do what ya gotta do. Edited to add: the videos were removed before the first group came to the house and I will check often to make sure there are no more posted and the mother of the group wrote me an apology note with her phone number and assured me that the cell phones/cameras/internet would be taken away from her kids. I hope the kids can prove themselves to be the good kids I thought they were and earn their priveleges back. [/QUOTE]
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