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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 36271" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Sorry, I saw this soon after you posted but I wasn't able to reply until now (busy with dinner, etc - then BF2 was submitting some forms for work). Overall I think you've done this well. Certainly it makes the point clear that you feel they are doing the wrong thing; and also, that you have been doing your best to work with them. However, maybe I don't understand this particular situation - why did you make him apologise, if the school were the ones who were supposed to ensure he had an escort?</p><p>Although, this DOES show that you are really working hard at supporting them and this isn't just a knee-jerk "don't be critical of my darling child" reaction.</p><p></p><p>You've listed events - good. You've acknowledged your own part in misunderstandings - good. A teacher who has directed a certain punishment because she didn't know that this was inappropriate should feel free to change tactics once the knowledge needed is given. It is no shame for her to say, "I misunderstood - we'll leave it for now."</p><p></p><p>Did the advocate suggest any further steps? What did the advocate think about sending your letter to the district head? Or you having a talk to the district head? Or someone else in District, maybe in Disability?</p><p></p><p>I do know, that in our area the District were all directed towards protecting their own rear ends and not the student, whenever there was a conflict over what was being done. When I had a problem with the District Disabilities person, it was ironic that the school was backing me up in the face of her determination to cut me out of difficult child 3's Special Education support. In our area, we have no grievance procedure. If we complain, the letter gets referred right back to the person we've complained about, not just for their knowledge (which is understandable, but for them to investigate (which is not acceptable at all).</p><p></p><p>This could happen again. It could also escalate - or not. But if the school still don't fully understand exactly what their responsibilities are with IEPs and Behaviour Plans, then it's highly likely this will happen again. So you may need to do some discreet digging, for future reference - what sort of accountability is there in your system? What sort of grievance procedure is there? I can't help much here because I'm just a tad out of your area!</p><p></p><p>This may be beginning to feel like you're blowing things out of proportion, but I do see this as a pivotal issue - either they 'get' what they should have done, or they don't. And if they don't, then what do they really think the IEP is for? That may be a question you can ask them if you have to send another letter.</p><p></p><p>It's possible they may be hoping that once punishment has taken place that you will drop the subject. After all, it's all over by then, it's like continuing to petition the governor for clemency after the execution has been carried out.</p><p></p><p>Hang in there. Keep it polite as you have done, and hang on like a bulldog.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 36271, member: 1991"] Sorry, I saw this soon after you posted but I wasn't able to reply until now (busy with dinner, etc - then BF2 was submitting some forms for work). Overall I think you've done this well. Certainly it makes the point clear that you feel they are doing the wrong thing; and also, that you have been doing your best to work with them. However, maybe I don't understand this particular situation - why did you make him apologise, if the school were the ones who were supposed to ensure he had an escort? Although, this DOES show that you are really working hard at supporting them and this isn't just a knee-jerk "don't be critical of my darling child" reaction. You've listed events - good. You've acknowledged your own part in misunderstandings - good. A teacher who has directed a certain punishment because she didn't know that this was inappropriate should feel free to change tactics once the knowledge needed is given. It is no shame for her to say, "I misunderstood - we'll leave it for now." Did the advocate suggest any further steps? What did the advocate think about sending your letter to the district head? Or you having a talk to the district head? Or someone else in District, maybe in Disability? I do know, that in our area the District were all directed towards protecting their own rear ends and not the student, whenever there was a conflict over what was being done. When I had a problem with the District Disabilities person, it was ironic that the school was backing me up in the face of her determination to cut me out of difficult child 3's Special Education support. In our area, we have no grievance procedure. If we complain, the letter gets referred right back to the person we've complained about, not just for their knowledge (which is understandable, but for them to investigate (which is not acceptable at all). This could happen again. It could also escalate - or not. But if the school still don't fully understand exactly what their responsibilities are with IEPs and Behaviour Plans, then it's highly likely this will happen again. So you may need to do some discreet digging, for future reference - what sort of accountability is there in your system? What sort of grievance procedure is there? I can't help much here because I'm just a tad out of your area! This may be beginning to feel like you're blowing things out of proportion, but I do see this as a pivotal issue - either they 'get' what they should have done, or they don't. And if they don't, then what do they really think the IEP is for? That may be a question you can ask them if you have to send another letter. It's possible they may be hoping that once punishment has taken place that you will drop the subject. After all, it's all over by then, it's like continuing to petition the governor for clemency after the execution has been carried out. Hang in there. Keep it polite as you have done, and hang on like a bulldog. Marg [/QUOTE]
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