Hi there! I am new to this site, but after reading some of the posts here, I feel like I am home. Tonight, actually all day today, as far as husband is concerned, difficult child son could do nothing right. Everything that came up was greeted with a sarcastic accusation as to his "true" motive or just plain grumpiness. I mean it was horrible. I had a great day with him. He got his chores done, got dressed and ready for his day without prompting and we went to the movies with his sister and another child from the neighborhood. I had people comment on his beautiful manners! I mean it was a GREAT day. Then, we got home. husband helped difficult child daughter with her homework, that she "forgot" until it was almost bedtime, cheerfully and with relish. She has worked through most of her issues with "Mom's" She was first abandoned by her bio Mom then her Bio Grandmother. Then by 4 Foster Mom's and 2 "Adoptive Mom's" before she and her brother came to us. She had big time Mom issues. She and I talk plainly about those women and the mistakes they made and what they could have done differently. We work hard together to reinforce that it was nothing wrong with her that made these women not hang in there, but something wrong with their choices. difficult child son bonded with me almost immediately, but still not much with husband. It has been 6 years and husband most days will not even meet him halfway. With difficult child daughter she bonded with him immediately, and well. I have tied a knot in my rope and am hanging on for dear life. husband is a caring and gentle man. I do not understand what his problem is. I can't take much more of hearing how manipulative our son is, how much of a liar he is, how he is a control freak etc. difficult child daughter can do almost no wrong in his eyes. I have worked my butt off to get through her walls, but it is as if difficult child son isn't worth the effort. Just now, difficult child son went to the bedroom (next to where I am writing this) and told Dad he had a bad dream. husband just growled at him to go back to bed. No cuddle, no assurances that it was not real, just a growl. He will admit that is how his Dad would have handled it, and that he hated it, but does it anyway??!! I admit that difficult child son and I have a stronger bond, and that in spite of his many behavior issues, I actually find him easier to be with. But I struggle every day not to let difficult child daughter know it. Does anybody have any advice? husband is not an uncaring man, I think actually that his feelings were hurt that our son held him at arms length for so long. Help!