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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 351272" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Sunxstone,</p><p></p><p>Those clear plastic painters tarps are one idea. You could also use shower curtains. Those can be tossed into the washing machine with cleaner and then air dryed - if you cannot put them outside you could put an extra rod up in your shower and then hang them up, or toss them over the rod you already have in the bathroom. I don't know if the painter's plastic cloths can be tossed in the wash, or if they will stand up to the daily activities of a teen. Have you considered putting laminated flooring down in his room? You can get the wood looking floors for less than $1 per square foot. My mom got really nice laminated flooring for my kids' rooms (because they have asthma) for $0.89 per square foot. It was at a closeout place, but I am sure you can find a deal somewhere. Or look at a carpet place's outlet for a piece of cheap vinyl flooring. If you want to keep the carpet you could probably just slide it between the carpet and the furniture. We almost did that to Wiz's room because he kept taking food out of the freezer and keeping it in his room until it rotted. Pounds of cooked hamburger, etc.... He got tired of food poisoning after 2 attacks, the last one really really bad before we had time to buy the flooring, so we didn't do it.</p><p></p><p>One member here describes her method of parenting as "Do to Get". Essentially if her son's want it they must do something to get it. Not the basics, but extras or for her to do something. According to the law you must provide a mattress, pillow, blanket, lamp or ceiling light, clothes and food. You can do a mattress on the floor, but it sounds as if that might get really gross really fast. Unless you put it in one of those plastic bags for mattresses. No room of his own, even a door is optional - though privacy for bathing and dressing is mandatory. Members here who have removed doors have hung curtains in the doorway to provide some privacy for others who's rooms the difficult child's can see into. That is not mandatory.</p><p></p><p>Clothes do NOT have to be ones they like. They can be thrift store clothes. When my difficult child was in the psychiatric hospital we had HUGE entitlement issues. Though we were on a very very tight budget all his life, my mother sent a box with clothes, books and toys at least twice a month (the size of a box of paper or larger). Often she sent boxes weekly. The first 4 years of difficult child's life we spent less than $100 on his clothing and shoes. Of our money, of course. Jessie did not get as many clothes, nor did thank you, though thank you got a lot more than Jessie did. We lived less than a mile from my mom until difficult child turned 3 and she literally could not go to the grocery store with-o buying something for him - usually clothing. She brought him a toy at least 2 times a week those first 3 years. He felt that he deserved all that new stuff, and if we held it back from him my mother would ask him if he liked it. Then it was a rage. She finally did quit asking him, but he was 10 and we were living with her while husband was in grad school when she realized the problems it had caused. Or at least more of it.</p><p></p><p>The psychiatric hospital was HORRIFIED to learn this. My mother did not feel the history I gave them was complete, or that it fully explained him. She sent her own letter, that I was to deliver and it was sealed so I could not read it. The psychiatric hospital gave me a copy. It was amazing the spin she had on things. It was my 3rd grader's fault he kept trying to kill her. (He LITERALLY tried to kill her by choking her while she was asleep and couldn't get away from him and we were asleep!) It explained his entitlement and justification issues far more clearly than I ever could. To both the psychiatric hospital AND me. Her understanding of his life was something out of a bizarre novel. </p><p></p><p>The psychiatric hospital said the state requirements (6 years ago) were for a child to have 7-10 complete outfits and 1-2 pairs of shoes. These were to be replaced 2 times a year with a clothing allowance of $50 every 6 months. That included shoes. The psychiatric hospital took children that were in foster care to the local Goodwill to purchase their clothing. THAT was the mandated amount of clothing. I think they each got 2-3 sets of pajamas/nightgowns each included. I know that the max spent per child was $50. The Goodwill store verified this when I asked. (by the way, my mother was HORRIFIED to think that difficult child couldn't have new clothes a couple of times each month while in the psychiatric hospital. What if he got tired of the clothes he had? It was a MAJOR deal to get through to her. She even bought some stuff and took it to him with-o my knowledge when she went to visit him. She was NOT. HAPPY. when they asked her why he needed them and said he had enough clothes and couldn't have them (the shirts had dragons and swards, etc... on them which were big problems and the pants had legs that zipped off so they were not allowed, plus he had plenty of clothes already). I heard about how they were depriving him for weeks after that. (Even difficult child thought she was dumb to be that upset!)</p><p></p><p>Anyway, that is pretty much what the state requires, and part of our saga (LOL). Oh, food is required but food they LIKE is not. Fast food or restaurant food definitely is NOT required. So that is the minimun required. Any extras are just that - extra. Handy info is your child starts off with the "deprived" routine or threatens to call Child Protection to say you are neglecting or abusing him.</p><p></p><p>Hope you have a good day! Hugs!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 351272, member: 1233"] Sunxstone, Those clear plastic painters tarps are one idea. You could also use shower curtains. Those can be tossed into the washing machine with cleaner and then air dryed - if you cannot put them outside you could put an extra rod up in your shower and then hang them up, or toss them over the rod you already have in the bathroom. I don't know if the painter's plastic cloths can be tossed in the wash, or if they will stand up to the daily activities of a teen. Have you considered putting laminated flooring down in his room? You can get the wood looking floors for less than $1 per square foot. My mom got really nice laminated flooring for my kids' rooms (because they have asthma) for $0.89 per square foot. It was at a closeout place, but I am sure you can find a deal somewhere. Or look at a carpet place's outlet for a piece of cheap vinyl flooring. If you want to keep the carpet you could probably just slide it between the carpet and the furniture. We almost did that to Wiz's room because he kept taking food out of the freezer and keeping it in his room until it rotted. Pounds of cooked hamburger, etc.... He got tired of food poisoning after 2 attacks, the last one really really bad before we had time to buy the flooring, so we didn't do it. One member here describes her method of parenting as "Do to Get". Essentially if her son's want it they must do something to get it. Not the basics, but extras or for her to do something. According to the law you must provide a mattress, pillow, blanket, lamp or ceiling light, clothes and food. You can do a mattress on the floor, but it sounds as if that might get really gross really fast. Unless you put it in one of those plastic bags for mattresses. No room of his own, even a door is optional - though privacy for bathing and dressing is mandatory. Members here who have removed doors have hung curtains in the doorway to provide some privacy for others who's rooms the difficult child's can see into. That is not mandatory. Clothes do NOT have to be ones they like. They can be thrift store clothes. When my difficult child was in the psychiatric hospital we had HUGE entitlement issues. Though we were on a very very tight budget all his life, my mother sent a box with clothes, books and toys at least twice a month (the size of a box of paper or larger). Often she sent boxes weekly. The first 4 years of difficult child's life we spent less than $100 on his clothing and shoes. Of our money, of course. Jessie did not get as many clothes, nor did thank you, though thank you got a lot more than Jessie did. We lived less than a mile from my mom until difficult child turned 3 and she literally could not go to the grocery store with-o buying something for him - usually clothing. She brought him a toy at least 2 times a week those first 3 years. He felt that he deserved all that new stuff, and if we held it back from him my mother would ask him if he liked it. Then it was a rage. She finally did quit asking him, but he was 10 and we were living with her while husband was in grad school when she realized the problems it had caused. Or at least more of it. The psychiatric hospital was HORRIFIED to learn this. My mother did not feel the history I gave them was complete, or that it fully explained him. She sent her own letter, that I was to deliver and it was sealed so I could not read it. The psychiatric hospital gave me a copy. It was amazing the spin she had on things. It was my 3rd grader's fault he kept trying to kill her. (He LITERALLY tried to kill her by choking her while she was asleep and couldn't get away from him and we were asleep!) It explained his entitlement and justification issues far more clearly than I ever could. To both the psychiatric hospital AND me. Her understanding of his life was something out of a bizarre novel. The psychiatric hospital said the state requirements (6 years ago) were for a child to have 7-10 complete outfits and 1-2 pairs of shoes. These were to be replaced 2 times a year with a clothing allowance of $50 every 6 months. That included shoes. The psychiatric hospital took children that were in foster care to the local Goodwill to purchase their clothing. THAT was the mandated amount of clothing. I think they each got 2-3 sets of pajamas/nightgowns each included. I know that the max spent per child was $50. The Goodwill store verified this when I asked. (by the way, my mother was HORRIFIED to think that difficult child couldn't have new clothes a couple of times each month while in the psychiatric hospital. What if he got tired of the clothes he had? It was a MAJOR deal to get through to her. She even bought some stuff and took it to him with-o my knowledge when she went to visit him. She was NOT. HAPPY. when they asked her why he needed them and said he had enough clothes and couldn't have them (the shirts had dragons and swards, etc... on them which were big problems and the pants had legs that zipped off so they were not allowed, plus he had plenty of clothes already). I heard about how they were depriving him for weeks after that. (Even difficult child thought she was dumb to be that upset!) Anyway, that is pretty much what the state requires, and part of our saga (LOL). Oh, food is required but food they LIKE is not. Fast food or restaurant food definitely is NOT required. So that is the minimun required. Any extras are just that - extra. Handy info is your child starts off with the "deprived" routine or threatens to call Child Protection to say you are neglecting or abusing him. Hope you have a good day! Hugs!! [/QUOTE]
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