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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 8392" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>I guess I don't understand why a few people (who are lucky enough to have contact with their children) seem to feel that I am wrong to want to know that M is alive. He hasn't contacted us in over two years. He hasn't contacted anyone we know in two years. I don't talk to him. I don't interfere with him. I'm not bothered by what he posts on his MySpace page. It gives me relief to know that he is working and fed and has a place to live. It makes me feel better. I'll be happy when I see something wonderful, but in the meantime, do I not get to comment upon his antics, only my own feelings without explanation? If it doesn't bother me, why does it bother you? How many of you can really say that you know what it is like to be cut out of your child's live forever and not know if you will ever see them again? If you thought it was bad when you didn't see them for weeks or months, try years.</p><p></p><p>Does the fact that I find this out through his MySpace page negate my right to comment upon it? I don't act on any of it and it doesn't upset me. I have to say that I am terribly hurt and upset that people try to second guess me when they haven't lived my life. By all means, if someone has a suggestion as to how I can check to see that he is alive and safe without looking at his web page or learning anything else about his life, I am all ears, 'cuz there isn't a way. Am I never allowed to wonder where he is, or what he is doing, or think of him when the phone rings, or when I see a tall thin young man on the street, or hear a news story that sounds like him? Does the fact that he won't talk to us mean that I am not welcome to post my feelings and observations about him here? How is my worry about news stories any different than anyone else jumping when the phone rings or the siren sounds? Because he cut us off? </p><p></p><p>Again, I am not upset about the partying or the picture. <strong>I am not upset about the partying or the picture. </strong> I don't know how else to say that and really feel that I have heard enough advice about not checking his page from time to time. It's not advice I want or am going to take because it is the wrong advice for me. I am and always will be his mother. I will always hope for the best and fear the worst. And so long as I have the ability to check on him and ease my fears, I will. </p><p></p><p>I'm sorry that so many of you seem to think that I should stop looking at his MySpace page to ease my fears about his life. It helps me to not worry. I'm not hurting you. I'm not hurting me - in fact I'm putting my mind at ease. I'm not hurting M or husband or anyone. I'm allowed to worry about M just like the rest of you worry about yours. When you haven't seen or heard from your child for 2+ years and you find a way to check and be sure he is alright, maybe you will feel differently about it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 8392, member: 99"] I guess I don't understand why a few people (who are lucky enough to have contact with their children) seem to feel that I am wrong to want to know that M is alive. He hasn't contacted us in over two years. He hasn't contacted anyone we know in two years. I don't talk to him. I don't interfere with him. I'm not bothered by what he posts on his MySpace page. It gives me relief to know that he is working and fed and has a place to live. It makes me feel better. I'll be happy when I see something wonderful, but in the meantime, do I not get to comment upon his antics, only my own feelings without explanation? If it doesn't bother me, why does it bother you? How many of you can really say that you know what it is like to be cut out of your child's live forever and not know if you will ever see them again? If you thought it was bad when you didn't see them for weeks or months, try years. Does the fact that I find this out through his MySpace page negate my right to comment upon it? I don't act on any of it and it doesn't upset me. I have to say that I am terribly hurt and upset that people try to second guess me when they haven't lived my life. By all means, if someone has a suggestion as to how I can check to see that he is alive and safe without looking at his web page or learning anything else about his life, I am all ears, 'cuz there isn't a way. Am I never allowed to wonder where he is, or what he is doing, or think of him when the phone rings, or when I see a tall thin young man on the street, or hear a news story that sounds like him? Does the fact that he won't talk to us mean that I am not welcome to post my feelings and observations about him here? How is my worry about news stories any different than anyone else jumping when the phone rings or the siren sounds? Because he cut us off? Again, I am not upset about the partying or the picture. [b]I am not upset about the partying or the picture. [/b] I don't know how else to say that and really feel that I have heard enough advice about not checking his page from time to time. It's not advice I want or am going to take because it is the wrong advice for me. I am and always will be his mother. I will always hope for the best and fear the worst. And so long as I have the ability to check on him and ease my fears, I will. I'm sorry that so many of you seem to think that I should stop looking at his MySpace page to ease my fears about his life. It helps me to not worry. I'm not hurting you. I'm not hurting me - in fact I'm putting my mind at ease. I'm not hurting M or husband or anyone. I'm allowed to worry about M just like the rest of you worry about yours. When you haven't seen or heard from your child for 2+ years and you find a way to check and be sure he is alright, maybe you will feel differently about it. [/QUOTE]
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