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daralex's post got me thinking, ways to protect our G'sFG?
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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 271277" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">While I don't like the idea of anyone being under 24 hour surveillance, I understand with a particular type of difficult child it can be necessary. I did it.</span></span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">We had all the protections in place as listed below by Trinity in regards to the computer. She couldn't even play Solitaire without someone home to unlock the computer. It was stationed in the living room, next to the kitchen. It had a BIOS password, a windows password and an AOL password, known ONLY by me. Parental controls were set for ONE HOUR each day during the evening hour following dinnertime so I was home. Cell phones: She didn't get one until she was 15 and, boy, were we naive. H bought her the cell, put it on his plan without any restrictions because he didn't realize he needed them. Of course, hindsight is 20/20. We eliminated internet access and text messaging and I took the phone away from her at 9PM, same time our regular phones were off limits. During the day at school she had to hand her cell over to the receptionist at school - ALL the students did, if they had one. It was a very small school so this was possible. </span></span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #483d8b">If your kid needs to have a phone? Get one without a camera and eliminate the possibility of any texting. Phone calls only. They make them and they are worth every penny. Here is one: <a href="http://www.mycricket.com/cricketphones/details/nok1606" target="_blank">http://www.mycricket.com/cricketphones/details/nok1606</a></span></span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #483d8b">If that's not allowed, moderators please delete that portion.</span></span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">If I had to do it all over again, to be honest, I wouldn't even get internet in my home until everyone was over 18. Honestly. While the internet can be a blessing, it can also be a conduit for evil and unfortunately, whether its through bullying, sexual predators or simply wasting time, it's usually used for evil. I can't even count how many times my girls had told me they were on line for a school project (yeah right!). Before <em>we </em>had internet, we went to the library, which is where my girls had to go after the police confiscated our computer for 9 months for evidence. For those 9 months, there were fewer arguments (over anything), less anxiety (for all of us), more time spent reading and talking (among all of us) and surprisingly, all school projects were done with the help of an old fashioned encyclopedia and other resource materials found at our local public library. </span></span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">My feeling is, that all the precautions in the world cannot prevent a child or teen who fancies him/herself an adult from hurting themself or others if they are determined to do so. And, in my opinion, being under surveillance, or being the surveyor, is not healthy for anyone. Not knocking anyone - just my 2¢. I think kids need space and privacy just like adults do; if we take that away, how do they learn to self monitor and grow? Again, don't want to start a debate, because I did it myself with my own difficult child - I'm just saying that is my base feeling about monitoring our kids. I never had to do that with easy child. With difficult child it was a different story.</span></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 271277, member: 2211"] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]While I don't like the idea of anyone being under 24 hour surveillance, I understand with a particular type of difficult child it can be necessary. I did it.[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]We had all the protections in place as listed below by Trinity in regards to the computer. She couldn't even play Solitaire without someone home to unlock the computer. It was stationed in the living room, next to the kitchen. It had a BIOS password, a windows password and an AOL password, known ONLY by me. Parental controls were set for ONE HOUR each day during the evening hour following dinnertime so I was home. Cell phones: She didn't get one until she was 15 and, boy, were we naive. H bought her the cell, put it on his plan without any restrictions because he didn't realize he needed them. Of course, hindsight is 20/20. We eliminated internet access and text messaging and I took the phone away from her at 9PM, same time our regular phones were off limits. During the day at school she had to hand her cell over to the receptionist at school - ALL the students did, if they had one. It was a very small school so this was possible. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=#483d8b]If your kid needs to have a phone? Get one without a camera and eliminate the possibility of any texting. Phone calls only. They make them and they are worth every penny. Here is one: [URL]http://www.mycricket.com/cricketphones/details/nok1606[/URL][/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=#483d8b]If that's not allowed, moderators please delete that portion.[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]If I had to do it all over again, to be honest, I wouldn't even get internet in my home until everyone was over 18. Honestly. While the internet can be a blessing, it can also be a conduit for evil and unfortunately, whether its through bullying, sexual predators or simply wasting time, it's usually used for evil. I can't even count how many times my girls had told me they were on line for a school project (yeah right!). Before [I]we [/I]had internet, we went to the library, which is where my girls had to go after the police confiscated our computer for 9 months for evidence. For those 9 months, there were fewer arguments (over anything), less anxiety (for all of us), more time spent reading and talking (among all of us) and surprisingly, all school projects were done with the help of an old fashioned encyclopedia and other resource materials found at our local public library. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]My feeling is, that all the precautions in the world cannot prevent a child or teen who fancies him/herself an adult from hurting themself or others if they are determined to do so. And, in my opinion, being under surveillance, or being the surveyor, is not healthy for anyone. Not knocking anyone - just my 2¢. I think kids need space and privacy just like adults do; if we take that away, how do they learn to self monitor and grow? Again, don't want to start a debate, because I did it myself with my own difficult child - I'm just saying that is my base feeling about monitoring our kids. I never had to do that with easy child. With difficult child it was a different story.[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [/QUOTE]
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