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<blockquote data-quote="Methuselah" data-source="post: 457149" data-attributes="member: 12725"><p>Hi Mtn.Nat. I am sorry you and your family are going through this. It is so hard to watch the ones you love walk down bad paths. It's heartbreaking and scary. </p><p></p><p>Did your daughter's behavior become a problem after your heart attack or has it always been this way? Is she a drug user? Also, is she a "fight or flight" liar or a straight out liar? For example, my oldest son is a fight or flight liar. If I remove the impulse for him to protect himself first by lying, he'll tell the truth. I'll say soemthing like "we are going to talk about X after dinner." Removing the rush of "Oh no! I'm busted!" panic by giving him a heads-up on near future talk lessens his lying <em>considerably</em>. My difficult children on the other hand? The heads-up just gives them time to concoct a better lie. :-/</p><p></p><p>She probably is going to be angry with you and your husband. You did the right thing, something she deliberately chose not to do. She may not appreciate it now, but she will one day. Probably when she has her own kids, as my mom told me. When my kids tell me they hate me, I think of a bit Roseanne Barr said in her act: If your kids hate you, you know you're doing your job. It's true. </p><p></p><p>I hope this is a start of a new beginning for her and your family.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Methuselah, post: 457149, member: 12725"] Hi Mtn.Nat. I am sorry you and your family are going through this. It is so hard to watch the ones you love walk down bad paths. It's heartbreaking and scary. Did your daughter's behavior become a problem after your heart attack or has it always been this way? Is she a drug user? Also, is she a "fight or flight" liar or a straight out liar? For example, my oldest son is a fight or flight liar. If I remove the impulse for him to protect himself first by lying, he'll tell the truth. I'll say soemthing like "we are going to talk about X after dinner." Removing the rush of "Oh no! I'm busted!" panic by giving him a heads-up on near future talk lessens his lying [I]considerably[/I]. My difficult children on the other hand? The heads-up just gives them time to concoct a better lie. :-/ She probably is going to be angry with you and your husband. You did the right thing, something she deliberately chose not to do. She may not appreciate it now, but she will one day. Probably when she has her own kids, as my mom told me. When my kids tell me they hate me, I think of a bit Roseanne Barr said in her act: If your kids hate you, you know you're doing your job. It's true. I hope this is a start of a new beginning for her and your family. [/QUOTE]
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