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<blockquote data-quote="Robinboots" data-source="post: 119152" data-attributes="member: 4542"><p>A few things here:</p><p></p><p>I agree that one cannot threaten but not follow thru - that's a set-up for disaster in two ways - you feel (are) powerless and helpless, and it teaches kids that you're all talk - so they learn nothing.</p><p></p><p>My son's issues sound similar, in that the explosive temper seems out of proportion to the issue at hand. At 12, your son is plenty old enough NOT to have several warnings before turning off the Wii, or whatever the particular issue is at the time. Tell him once and be done. That said, I, too have problems in that I want to avoid a conflict. Time will tell in this house, today!</p><p></p><p>When my son locked himself in his room recently, I decided to take back my house - I gave him 5 minutes to open up, then we broke down the door. No negotiating. It came off the hinges and is in the garage. I gave him 15 minutes to clean it up. No negotiating. We did ourselves and packed everything away.</p><p></p><p>My philosophy is to be firm, consistent, and take action. Not that I can always accomplish this... <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Robinboots, post: 119152, member: 4542"] A few things here: I agree that one cannot threaten but not follow thru - that's a set-up for disaster in two ways - you feel (are) powerless and helpless, and it teaches kids that you're all talk - so they learn nothing. My son's issues sound similar, in that the explosive temper seems out of proportion to the issue at hand. At 12, your son is plenty old enough NOT to have several warnings before turning off the Wii, or whatever the particular issue is at the time. Tell him once and be done. That said, I, too have problems in that I want to avoid a conflict. Time will tell in this house, today! When my son locked himself in his room recently, I decided to take back my house - I gave him 5 minutes to open up, then we broke down the door. No negotiating. It came off the hinges and is in the garage. I gave him 15 minutes to clean it up. No negotiating. We did ourselves and packed everything away. My philosophy is to be firm, consistent, and take action. Not that I can always accomplish this... :) [/QUOTE]
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