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Daughter in hospital for 2nd time since February
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 362089" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Well, we heard of attachment disorder, but not from any social worker. In fact our six week class to teach us about older, damaged children for adoption was a total joke and painted a lovely picture and whitewashed the incredible hardships. I read up on it and thought I knew enough. BOY WAS I WRONG!!!!!!!!!!! Nothing ever prepares anyone for the real thing...and you love the children who can't love back, so you hurt and wonder what you can do, but there is nothing you can do sometimes...</p><p></p><p>Social workers also often either deliberately give wrong information or just plain old don't know that much about the child. In the case of our son from New Jersey who came with such glowing recommendations on his character, I truly believe that his social workers, psychologists and even psychiatrist didn't know he was such a sick kid. He was a genius at hiding it, and they told us all they knew. Until the system is better, and you actually get correct information about the child, I would only adopt an infant. A good friend of mine had an older foster child in her care and he burned her house down (true story). He did not cry or say he was sorry afterward and seemed not to know the enormity of what he had done. Of course, he left her care, but tabs are still kept on him and they say he laughs about "the house I burned down once."</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 362089, member: 1550"] Well, we heard of attachment disorder, but not from any social worker. In fact our six week class to teach us about older, damaged children for adoption was a total joke and painted a lovely picture and whitewashed the incredible hardships. I read up on it and thought I knew enough. BOY WAS I WRONG!!!!!!!!!!! Nothing ever prepares anyone for the real thing...and you love the children who can't love back, so you hurt and wonder what you can do, but there is nothing you can do sometimes... Social workers also often either deliberately give wrong information or just plain old don't know that much about the child. In the case of our son from New Jersey who came with such glowing recommendations on his character, I truly believe that his social workers, psychologists and even psychiatrist didn't know he was such a sick kid. He was a genius at hiding it, and they told us all they knew. Until the system is better, and you actually get correct information about the child, I would only adopt an infant. A good friend of mine had an older foster child in her care and he burned her house down (true story). He did not cry or say he was sorry afterward and seemed not to know the enormity of what he had done. Of course, he left her care, but tabs are still kept on him and they say he laughs about "the house I burned down once." [/QUOTE]
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