My daughter is 5 and fits the criteria for ODD. She is not ALWAYS defiant, but she displays defiant behavior at school and at home. In her mind, things sometimes have to be a certain way. If she wants to make a craft a certain way and she can't do it quite right she melts down. If she wants to do something and we tell her no then she melts down. She loses it emotionally. Sometimes this can lead to her hitting or pushing others, sometimes it doesn't. Sometimes it seems like she is purposely being defiant and not doing what she is told just because she is told to do it. I am using the word "sometimes" a lot because she is not consistent. There are times when she is more flexible in her thinking and more accepting of taking direction. My daughter also has social skill issues. She does not respects others space. She likes to be around people and other children but does not act appropriately. She wants to be in charge of everything and comes off as bossy and rude. Conversations are one-sided. She seems to lack empathy. She was evaluated by a developmental pediatrician. They did not evaluation my daughter very long, just talked to her for a few minutes. But the doctor talked to me and asked me tons of questions and I filled out paperwork. Results of the paperwork and discussion resulted in my daughter fitting the criteria for Aspergers, however she has not been officially diagnosed with it. She does not fit many characteristics of Aspergers. She is NOT clumsy, she does NOT have 1 area of interest that she is obsessed with, she does NOT speak in a formal tone or odd way. What does this all sound like to you guys? I keep reading on here about neuro pysch. Do you think we would benefit from that type of evaluation? She has been seeing a psychologist for play therapy and saw the devo pediatrician. and no one has ever mentioned neuro psychiatric. but I want her to be "tested" in some way. She has not been "tested" at all. Can a child have Aspergers and not be obsessed with a certain topic? I would love to hear from some parents of girls with Aspergers because there seems to be a debate about girls presenting differently than boys and since there are few girls diagnosed with Aspergers the jury is still out! Thanks!