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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 202407" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>I don't mean to "normalize" this. I know his thoughts are not normal. In fact I was surprised that it was how he reacted when he couldn't find his dad. We are learning that for him he needs to get control of his panic moments before they turn to abnormal thoughts.</p><p> </p><p>He said he thought of going downstairs and having husband paged but didn't think husband would answer the page. He did not want to bother the workers to help him. I can see where he was starting to feel all alone but for that to lead to self harm thought is not normal.</p><p> </p><p>I need to find that fine line of providing just the right protection that keeps him safe yet gives him the power to grow and overcome these issues. And to know how medications need to play a role. People outside this forum may think I am overly protective but they do not know where he ends up if he faces something that scares him. Like Smallworld said, it is not normal to react to panic with self harm thoughts. I am encouraging him to face scary moments and overcome those with his tools but I need to be alert to how much he can fight before the problem gets too big for him. When do I step in? Do we increase the medications again or try staying at this level longer to see if the signs will go away? Is this a symptom, a side effect, or the withdrawal? It really can be any of the three because what this medication helps to prevent can also cause.</p><p> </p><p>Thank you for your input. It really does help me to know what to report and to watch out for (cutting - fortunately for now he does not want to hurt himself - that was his big struggle last Fall, his body would tell him to hurt himself or others and he did not want to - he was finding is impossible to fight back and was afraid he would follow through - let's pray that will he will always fight back).</p><p> </p><p>It is amazing how most kids do not think they can talk to their parents about this. More amazing are that some parents will not listen, though I do think they are scared, don't know what to do, and think the problem will go away with just their saying, "Don't hurt yourself".</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 202407, member: 5096"] I don't mean to "normalize" this. I know his thoughts are not normal. In fact I was surprised that it was how he reacted when he couldn't find his dad. We are learning that for him he needs to get control of his panic moments before they turn to abnormal thoughts. He said he thought of going downstairs and having husband paged but didn't think husband would answer the page. He did not want to bother the workers to help him. I can see where he was starting to feel all alone but for that to lead to self harm thought is not normal. I need to find that fine line of providing just the right protection that keeps him safe yet gives him the power to grow and overcome these issues. And to know how medications need to play a role. People outside this forum may think I am overly protective but they do not know where he ends up if he faces something that scares him. Like Smallworld said, it is not normal to react to panic with self harm thoughts. I am encouraging him to face scary moments and overcome those with his tools but I need to be alert to how much he can fight before the problem gets too big for him. When do I step in? Do we increase the medications again or try staying at this level longer to see if the signs will go away? Is this a symptom, a side effect, or the withdrawal? It really can be any of the three because what this medication helps to prevent can also cause. Thank you for your input. It really does help me to know what to report and to watch out for (cutting - fortunately for now he does not want to hurt himself - that was his big struggle last Fall, his body would tell him to hurt himself or others and he did not want to - he was finding is impossible to fight back and was afraid he would follow through - let's pray that will he will always fight back). It is amazing how most kids do not think they can talk to their parents about this. More amazing are that some parents will not listen, though I do think they are scared, don't know what to do, and think the problem will go away with just their saying, "Don't hurt yourself". [/QUOTE]
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