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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 150869" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>Hi Hopeful and welcome.</p><p> </p><p>Hmmm... I agree with Christy that this sounds like it's more than just a potty training issue. Peeing on the carpet when she's mad at you is flat out behavioral, in my mom opinion. If I'm reading between the lines correctly, sounds like she's fought you at every turn when it comes to being potty trained (the preventative schedule). Possibly a battle of wills? What is your reaction when she does wet herself? Are you emotional, angry? Is this a big huge deal with punishments, etc?</p><p> </p><p>Unfortunately, we really have have zero control of what comes out of our kids' bodies or when. If it's purely a matter of control (as in who is in charge), you are not going to win this battle. I think that logical consequences need to be used and completely without any emotion at all on your part. She wets herself, she cleans it up. Does her laundry. If she's peeing on the carpet, if at *all* possible, I'd get the carpet out of her room. If you can't do that, I'd have her clean that up as well. Of course, that still opens you up to the battle of wills over clean up but... you might have a better chance of winning that one.</p><p> </p><p>I'd strongly recommend first (since it sounds like you've already had her checked out physically) a full psychiatric evaluation - the timing of her loss of "control" certainly is concerning, but also because she's continuing to do this intentionally and as a result of being mad at you.</p><p> </p><p>I would be very hesitant about heading for a retro potty training program because it doesn't sound like that would really address the underlying issues. While I totally understand (and remember) what a mess this kind of problem is, I really don't think any effort at pure "training" is going to be the solution and if you've got a kiddo who is into power struggles, I would be very worried that forcing the surface issue of toileting might actually make things worse.</p><p> </p><p>Just my mom opinion. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> Glad you found us.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 150869, member: 8"] Hi Hopeful and welcome. Hmmm... I agree with Christy that this sounds like it's more than just a potty training issue. Peeing on the carpet when she's mad at you is flat out behavioral, in my mom opinion. If I'm reading between the lines correctly, sounds like she's fought you at every turn when it comes to being potty trained (the preventative schedule). Possibly a battle of wills? What is your reaction when she does wet herself? Are you emotional, angry? Is this a big huge deal with punishments, etc? Unfortunately, we really have have zero control of what comes out of our kids' bodies or when. If it's purely a matter of control (as in who is in charge), you are not going to win this battle. I think that logical consequences need to be used and completely without any emotion at all on your part. She wets herself, she cleans it up. Does her laundry. If she's peeing on the carpet, if at *all* possible, I'd get the carpet out of her room. If you can't do that, I'd have her clean that up as well. Of course, that still opens you up to the battle of wills over clean up but... you might have a better chance of winning that one. I'd strongly recommend first (since it sounds like you've already had her checked out physically) a full psychiatric evaluation - the timing of her loss of "control" certainly is concerning, but also because she's continuing to do this intentionally and as a result of being mad at you. I would be very hesitant about heading for a retro potty training program because it doesn't sound like that would really address the underlying issues. While I totally understand (and remember) what a mess this kind of problem is, I really don't think any effort at pure "training" is going to be the solution and if you've got a kiddo who is into power struggles, I would be very worried that forcing the surface issue of toileting might actually make things worse. Just my mom opinion. ;) Glad you found us. [/QUOTE]
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