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As most of you know, my daughter is in the residential DBT program. She had several months of the DBT day treatment before that-ran off to have sex 3 times and ended up in residential so she could be safe.Part of the PTSD and the borderline traits is her propencity to go sexually act out.(apparently common with these girls) Always older males. For awhile it was a gang involved 23 year old that supposedly loved her. He's in jail and judge ordered a no contact order.
When she calls/ or we see her she is so cheerful and hopeful. I think the Celexa she is on is now at therapeutic level, but I also think she feels safe from herself. She keeps telling us she is going to be out pretty fast as she is doing well. She says she now wants to get better. (still hard to believe) Staff says she is doing well. She is treatment savy. I worry as she played the game to get out of her last residential treatment, only to run every weekend (left school and wouldn't come home until Sunday night).
While I know this sexual acting out is a compulsion-at what point is it an addiction? She'll do anything to make contact with males. While she has messed with marijuana and some alcohol, it has not become a compulsion or addiction (yet), but this sex thing??? I can't figure out if the DBT will help, or if she will need 12 step again? I know the strategies are great in DBT, but the trick will be overriding her strong compulsions long enough to use them before she relaspes.
She tells us we have to learn to trust her-I don't know... think it's not going to happen for a lot of years. She even wants us to put her back in the local high school where she had so many problems with rumors, and we had a heck of a time getting any support for her.
She has 2 years of school left, she has not been successful in a public school since the PTSD reared its head in 7th grade. The alternative school is infested with gang kids-she was a wanna be for awhile (only place she felt acceptance). Can't home school, online school would be nice except, she uses the computer as a way to meet older people. Don't know how much we can block the computer and her still have access to what she would need for school?
My school is the best choice in the district-charter 6-12 school with a small population. Our teachers do well with the underserved i.e. gifted, sp. ed. etc. She has been identified as gifted. The only problem is when she was here in 8th grade, she began to get into trouble at school (never had issues with that before), I was truelly embarrassed and wondered if it was my presence that gave her permission. This is when she ended up in 1st residential treatment. Most of the other troubled kids have gone from her grade level, so the crowd would be better but....
I'm just at the "I have no answers stage" have to start planning as it wont be too long from now she wil be home. Any ideas or advise are greatfully accepted.
When she calls/ or we see her she is so cheerful and hopeful. I think the Celexa she is on is now at therapeutic level, but I also think she feels safe from herself. She keeps telling us she is going to be out pretty fast as she is doing well. She says she now wants to get better. (still hard to believe) Staff says she is doing well. She is treatment savy. I worry as she played the game to get out of her last residential treatment, only to run every weekend (left school and wouldn't come home until Sunday night).
While I know this sexual acting out is a compulsion-at what point is it an addiction? She'll do anything to make contact with males. While she has messed with marijuana and some alcohol, it has not become a compulsion or addiction (yet), but this sex thing??? I can't figure out if the DBT will help, or if she will need 12 step again? I know the strategies are great in DBT, but the trick will be overriding her strong compulsions long enough to use them before she relaspes.
She tells us we have to learn to trust her-I don't know... think it's not going to happen for a lot of years. She even wants us to put her back in the local high school where she had so many problems with rumors, and we had a heck of a time getting any support for her.
She has 2 years of school left, she has not been successful in a public school since the PTSD reared its head in 7th grade. The alternative school is infested with gang kids-she was a wanna be for awhile (only place she felt acceptance). Can't home school, online school would be nice except, she uses the computer as a way to meet older people. Don't know how much we can block the computer and her still have access to what she would need for school?
My school is the best choice in the district-charter 6-12 school with a small population. Our teachers do well with the underserved i.e. gifted, sp. ed. etc. She has been identified as gifted. The only problem is when she was here in 8th grade, she began to get into trouble at school (never had issues with that before), I was truelly embarrassed and wondered if it was my presence that gave her permission. This is when she ended up in 1st residential treatment. Most of the other troubled kids have gone from her grade level, so the crowd would be better but....
I'm just at the "I have no answers stage" have to start planning as it wont be too long from now she wil be home. Any ideas or advise are greatfully accepted.
