6 months ago psychiatrist gave scrip for school help, something with a 5...the thing just before you hit an iep. I forgot because it was that long ago. psychiatrist left it vague. I guess her understanding was that the school would iron out the details of how to assist him. psychiatrist is awesome so I was satisfied. Took it to the school. They gave me a blank stare and said they needed more information from psychiatrist. What were they supposed to do? Wanted line by line instructions from doctor. Also said they would offer a tutor for math, which they did. Also said would have Special Education. teacher do testing too. That didn't happen. I mentioned it to psychiatrist and she seemed surprised that the school was so clueless. I'm sketchy on the rest, it was 6 stressful months ago. I think I was waiting for a preliminary iep meeting due to just having done neuropsychologist testing. They tabled everything in lieu of results. Said without diagnosis being clear (even though I had verbal preliminary results) they had no idea what to do to help difficult child. My thought was that failing in school and having the original request for accomadations should have sufficed. It is clear difficult child has memory/auditory issues. neuropsychologist results were supposed to take 6 weeks so at the time it seemed a reasonable solution. They lost a staff member and we are *supposed* to get the results in a couple weeks, 4 1/2 months later. Grrrrreat! What myself and the iep "team" thought would help us make a fresh start this semester has dragged beyond the half way progress report. My bad, I should have been more proactive. I'm burnt. So many appointments, behaviors and on and on and on. Maintaining all the details isn't so easy. Amazingly enough our own efforts at home and difficult child getting motivated earned him 1 A 3 B's and 1 C only one missing assignment (last semester it was in the dozens all d's and f's. He has NEVER EVER done this well, not even since kindergarden. Since that seemed to be going well I didn't sweat the iep issue. Then it happened... A teacher gave him a zero on an assignment he actually completed. He was supposed to describe cookies using the 5 senses in an effort to sell them to somebody. During class teacher told him oatmeal cookies and sugar cookies. Okay, fine... difficult child has an auditory and memory problem. The homework sheet has no mention of the cookies to be used in the instructions at the top of the sheet. It just says "the cookies". You know, the place a kid who forgot what to do reads prior to completling his work? I don't doubt difficult child was talking or not paying attention in class, he is a teen and a difficult child afterall. I don't doubt that he could have put in a better effort but he DID do the assignment. He got a zero out of 10 for using chocolate chip cookies in his assignment. A flippin zero. Now I don't really care what this teacher thinks of my difficult child or if she likes him. He made a mistake. Even if she wants to assume it was a careless mistake he still did the rest of the work. He tried, he turned it in on time. It seems to me that she could have given him at least 2 freakin' points for putting his name on it and turning it in on time with writing on it. The zero vs. even just one single solitary measly point seems insutling and intentionally harsh. difficult child had a B in her class a week ago. That zero brought him to a b- at progress report time. The next week he failed a test and is down to a C. He had not failed any tests in this class so far. I'm guessing the failed test has a lot to do with the assignment being a zero, him showing it to me and then wadding it up and throwing it in my office trash with disgust. I am certain he will fail this class this semester now, 100% certain. Although it will hurt him in the long run I have to admit that I understand where he is coming from. I would be mad to. After doing so well he asked me when his neuropsychologist results would be in. This breaks my heart because he was so proud he could do it all on his own. Now, once again he feels like a failure and thinks he needs an iep to make it. He didn't need an iep, all he needed was some understanding teachers who could encourage him rather than kick him when he is doing his best. I'm mad. Mostly here to vent before I have the wrong tone in my voice when I call the school. I'm not happy. I know I should have been more assertive in our needs. I also feel like the school had the gosh darned prescription for some freakin' help 6 months ago. I thought they were obligated to help not put more burden of proof as to what he needs on me. They are the educators afterall. Shouldn't they be able to figure out how to help? I can assure you that their teacher just helped difficult child give up the first time he ever really put himself out there. I would scream bloody murder if I didn't want to burst into tears. I need sane advice. I don't want to be a doormat but I don't want to make enemies either.