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<blockquote data-quote="AHF" data-source="post: 420298" data-attributes="member: 11180"><p>I'm reading these posts with interest because I've recently been dealing with Robin Hood (difficult child #1), who manipulated me into co-signing a lease for him on the promise of repaying a large sum of money ... which he later wrote to say he did not intend to pay because he had decided that he needed the $ more than I did. He has been trying to make amends--because he wants something, of course--and when I point out that he lied and conned me, his response is, "That was just money. I've gotten over it. Why can't you?" I don't know whether to laugh or tear his throat out. It's like the bully who beats the kid up and then says, "that was just a bruise; I've gotten over it." We pick our battles, and I think they become the repositories for our anger & sadness. In this case, I'm holding firm: no friendly mom-contact until he makes good on the debt. ("It wasn't money, honey. It was a promise and a lie.") I find, sometimes, that holding forgiveness in reserve until true remorse comes on the scene can not only be empowering; it can actually make me LESS angry in the long run, because I'm not so angry with MYSELF.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AHF, post: 420298, member: 11180"] I'm reading these posts with interest because I've recently been dealing with Robin Hood (difficult child #1), who manipulated me into co-signing a lease for him on the promise of repaying a large sum of money ... which he later wrote to say he did not intend to pay because he had decided that he needed the $ more than I did. He has been trying to make amends--because he wants something, of course--and when I point out that he lied and conned me, his response is, "That was just money. I've gotten over it. Why can't you?" I don't know whether to laugh or tear his throat out. It's like the bully who beats the kid up and then says, "that was just a bruise; I've gotten over it." We pick our battles, and I think they become the repositories for our anger & sadness. In this case, I'm holding firm: no friendly mom-contact until he makes good on the debt. ("It wasn't money, honey. It was a promise and a lie.") I find, sometimes, that holding forgiveness in reserve until true remorse comes on the scene can not only be empowering; it can actually make me LESS angry in the long run, because I'm not so angry with MYSELF. [/QUOTE]
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