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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 420412" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>If I live to be 100 - I will NEVER forget our psychiatrist telling the state people ---(in OUR defense to get difficult child out of home services) </p><p> </p><p>"Well yes, I see your point, out of home services ARE very costly, but these parents HAVE jumped through every hoop, gone to every meeting, come to every session and exhausted every single avenue and then some..uh huh.....(long pause) uh huh (nodding on phone) uh huh....I see...(nodding again) well I will say this then and then perhaps you can make your own professional judgements. I have been a counselor, therapist for over thirty years. You may not know this, but I counsel the prisioners within our prison systems here a few times a month, and I've been doing that also for years. I see the worst of the worst - serial killers, mass murders people of that nature. Certainly a ten year old child can't be classified in that category, but I'll say this I would not spend ONE NIGHT in the XX house with their child. He's dangerous, unstable, unpredictable, and I'm not sure how anyone in that household sleeps, his parents show absolute signs of extreme exhaustion. They need a break. They have a right to be safe. If I were them? I'd be sleeping with one eye open all the time, and he's ten -without this intervention we can only imagine what he will be like at eleven. </p><p> </p><p>In essence? He did put it in writing and THAT is how we were able to get assistance for out of home placement. So at least one person in our lives understood. Him and you here. But the rest of the world? Either we got "You should do this and that - that will show him." Or we weren't parenting right, or tough enough, or "IF he were MY kid." and finally with one girl friend who KNOWS IT ALL? I let her - I handed her carte blanche because she had three darlings - and within ONE day - she handed me back the reins and said - "It's not you, it's him." (YA THINK?) So yup - There has to be a word past exhausted - Oh there is - Conduct Disorder.com parent. lol. And proud of it! </p><p> </p><p>Hang in there!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 420412, member: 4964"] If I live to be 100 - I will NEVER forget our psychiatrist telling the state people ---(in OUR defense to get difficult child out of home services) "Well yes, I see your point, out of home services ARE very costly, but these parents HAVE jumped through every hoop, gone to every meeting, come to every session and exhausted every single avenue and then some..uh huh.....(long pause) uh huh (nodding on phone) uh huh....I see...(nodding again) well I will say this then and then perhaps you can make your own professional judgements. I have been a counselor, therapist for over thirty years. You may not know this, but I counsel the prisioners within our prison systems here a few times a month, and I've been doing that also for years. I see the worst of the worst - serial killers, mass murders people of that nature. Certainly a ten year old child can't be classified in that category, but I'll say this I would not spend ONE NIGHT in the XX house with their child. He's dangerous, unstable, unpredictable, and I'm not sure how anyone in that household sleeps, his parents show absolute signs of extreme exhaustion. They need a break. They have a right to be safe. If I were them? I'd be sleeping with one eye open all the time, and he's ten -without this intervention we can only imagine what he will be like at eleven. In essence? He did put it in writing and THAT is how we were able to get assistance for out of home placement. So at least one person in our lives understood. Him and you here. But the rest of the world? Either we got "You should do this and that - that will show him." Or we weren't parenting right, or tough enough, or "IF he were MY kid." and finally with one girl friend who KNOWS IT ALL? I let her - I handed her carte blanche because she had three darlings - and within ONE day - she handed me back the reins and said - "It's not you, it's him." (YA THINK?) So yup - There has to be a word past exhausted - Oh there is - Conduct Disorder.com parent. lol. And proud of it! Hang in there! [/QUOTE]
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