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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 695372" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>I actually think a much bigger deal is being made of this than it needs to be. Fine, he found the site...he came in and asked us if there had been a problem today with him that required assistance (in a joking way). But I'm certain MY reaction was quite - I don't know, guilty? or something? and so he read our posts.</p><p></p><p>To be perfectly honest, I would have done the same thing! When I was a kid, if I found out my parents were posting on a website for "battle-weary" parents called "Conduct Disorders", I'd look to see what they said about me. As I told him, eavesdropping is a bad idea, you never know what you'll hear. Same thing. But I would have done it. And I wouldn't have even told my parents I had.</p><p></p><p>Heck Jabber, if I opened your computer (which I don't) and you had the browser open to some "marital problem" website, do you NOT think I'd talk to you? And if you just acted vague and weird about it, do you NOT think I'd look to see what was what? Well I'm sorry Honey, but unless you specifically told me <u>not</u> to do it, I would snoop if I had to, to find out what was going on that you were trying to hide.</p><p></p><p>As I have told my son countless times, there is nothing truly private on the internet.</p><p></p><p>He didn't have to tell us he'd seen the site you know folks. He could have just snooped and we'd never know. Just like he didn't have to leave the beer cans on the cabinet the other day. If he had the woman take them or otherwise disposed of them, we'd have never known. But he has been quite open and honest and I see that as a positive thing. In my opinion, it's much better than sneaking about and hiding things, but I seem to be the only one.</p><p></p><p>Jabber I love you more than anything on earth...but you hold a grudge. I think all he's put us through is stopping you from seeing the progress - and there IS progress. As I said, he's not there yet. But I find your lack of faith disturbing. He's working as many hours as he can at a job he loves. He's not high all the time. He seems to be broadening his group of friends...hopefully for the better. Since April, I've seen him tipsy once. He's still terrible with money. He's still moody. There are still issues there, but he is better. You're looking back at what he's been like and it makes you wait for it be happen again. I understand that, I do...He hurt you and you find that very hard to forgive and forget. But I look back and thank my lucky stars it's not like that anymore and hope it won't be again.</p><p></p><p>Maybe he's reading these words right now. So? I've never said anything on this site that wasn't true. I've said some things out of pain and anger, but the feelings were all real. It is what it is.</p><p></p><p>Frankly, I doubt he'll bother - we're pretty damn dull compared to some of you folks.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 695372, member: 17309"] I actually think a much bigger deal is being made of this than it needs to be. Fine, he found the site...he came in and asked us if there had been a problem today with him that required assistance (in a joking way). But I'm certain MY reaction was quite - I don't know, guilty? or something? and so he read our posts. To be perfectly honest, I would have done the same thing! When I was a kid, if I found out my parents were posting on a website for "battle-weary" parents called "Conduct Disorders", I'd look to see what they said about me. As I told him, eavesdropping is a bad idea, you never know what you'll hear. Same thing. But I would have done it. And I wouldn't have even told my parents I had. Heck Jabber, if I opened your computer (which I don't) and you had the browser open to some "marital problem" website, do you NOT think I'd talk to you? And if you just acted vague and weird about it, do you NOT think I'd look to see what was what? Well I'm sorry Honey, but unless you specifically told me [U]not[/U] to do it, I would snoop if I had to, to find out what was going on that you were trying to hide. As I have told my son countless times, there is nothing truly private on the internet. He didn't have to tell us he'd seen the site you know folks. He could have just snooped and we'd never know. Just like he didn't have to leave the beer cans on the cabinet the other day. If he had the woman take them or otherwise disposed of them, we'd have never known. But he has been quite open and honest and I see that as a positive thing. In my opinion, it's much better than sneaking about and hiding things, but I seem to be the only one. Jabber I love you more than anything on earth...but you hold a grudge. I think all he's put us through is stopping you from seeing the progress - and there IS progress. As I said, he's not there yet. But I find your lack of faith disturbing. He's working as many hours as he can at a job he loves. He's not high all the time. He seems to be broadening his group of friends...hopefully for the better. Since April, I've seen him tipsy once. He's still terrible with money. He's still moody. There are still issues there, but he is better. You're looking back at what he's been like and it makes you wait for it be happen again. I understand that, I do...He hurt you and you find that very hard to forgive and forget. But I look back and thank my lucky stars it's not like that anymore and hope it won't be again. Maybe he's reading these words right now. So? I've never said anything on this site that wasn't true. I've said some things out of pain and anger, but the feelings were all real. It is what it is. Frankly, I doubt he'll bother - we're pretty damn dull compared to some of you folks. [/QUOTE]
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