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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 695429" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>Both my kids know about this site. I spent so much of my life here, and changed so much from coming here. My son, especially, hated this site, but I needed it so. I agree that it was less insulting for the kids to hear "P C" and Gift From God ~ and those terms changed how I saw the kids too, a little bit. What the kids will read Lil and Jabber, if they read here, is that we love them. That might be the most welcome and surprising thing our so self-centered children will learn. </p><p></p><p>That we love them enough to be on this site. </p><p></p><p>If we've posted something we regret, well, we've all had those days when everything seemed impossibly dark. We are parents. We get to feel resentful or make mistakes or post things that seem so private, but that we cannot know how to do our best parenting through without help.</p><p></p><p>Darkwing, a sensitive, beautiful post, as usual.</p><p></p><p>Lil and Jabber, when my family was going through what we came through, we all already knew we didn't know how to handle what was happening to us. Whether I was on an anonymous internet support site was the last thing any of us were worrying about. My children are doing beautifully now, and I have come through it, too. That's what matters. Your son will have seen as well the incredible support both you and he have received from all of us, and the prayers, and the way we love him a little bit, too. And root for him when he is doing well and heartily disapprove when he isn't. </p><p></p><p>This is a good site.</p><p></p><p>You are good people.</p><p></p><p>Jabber, I will miss you too, though I am hardly here anymore. You will never know how that Monty Python clip helped me. Or how funny the Scotsman jokes were, or the little man in the garden ~ I never pass that tree and those gnomes without thinking of you.</p><p></p><p>And your socks.</p><p></p><p>And Lil, if we lose you, and you are not here with us anymore, know that I think of you every Christmas when I make baklava, and that how I found the recipe is part of the story of Christmas for my far flung family. And remember the pirate skirt?!? </p><p></p><p>That was the first time I saw Jabber's socks.</p><p></p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/roflmao.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":roflmao:" title="roflmao :roflmao:" data-shortname=":roflmao:" /></p><p></p><p>We needed one another, we parents. We didn't just dis our kid. We laughed and we cried and we prayed together and I think we will never forget one another. It's been good, and in time, I hope you both feel comfortable posting again.</p><p></p><p>So fondly,</p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 695429, member: 17461"] Both my kids know about this site. I spent so much of my life here, and changed so much from coming here. My son, especially, hated this site, but I needed it so. I agree that it was less insulting for the kids to hear "P C" and Gift From God ~ and those terms changed how I saw the kids too, a little bit. What the kids will read Lil and Jabber, if they read here, is that we love them. That might be the most welcome and surprising thing our so self-centered children will learn. That we love them enough to be on this site. If we've posted something we regret, well, we've all had those days when everything seemed impossibly dark. We are parents. We get to feel resentful or make mistakes or post things that seem so private, but that we cannot know how to do our best parenting through without help. Darkwing, a sensitive, beautiful post, as usual. Lil and Jabber, when my family was going through what we came through, we all already knew we didn't know how to handle what was happening to us. Whether I was on an anonymous internet support site was the last thing any of us were worrying about. My children are doing beautifully now, and I have come through it, too. That's what matters. Your son will have seen as well the incredible support both you and he have received from all of us, and the prayers, and the way we love him a little bit, too. And root for him when he is doing well and heartily disapprove when he isn't. This is a good site. You are good people. Jabber, I will miss you too, though I am hardly here anymore. You will never know how that Monty Python clip helped me. Or how funny the Scotsman jokes were, or the little man in the garden ~ I never pass that tree and those gnomes without thinking of you. And your socks. And Lil, if we lose you, and you are not here with us anymore, know that I think of you every Christmas when I make baklava, and that how I found the recipe is part of the story of Christmas for my far flung family. And remember the pirate skirt?!? That was the first time I saw Jabber's socks. :roflmao: We needed one another, we parents. We didn't just dis our kid. We laughed and we cried and we prayed together and I think we will never forget one another. It's been good, and in time, I hope you both feel comfortable posting again. So fondly, Cedar [/QUOTE]
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