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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 539974" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>I'm in favour of traditional funerals. In my culture stoicism is valued and showing too much emotion is considered flimsy. Traditional funerals at least give some place and permission to show you are grieving (even though especially men are not really expected to cry even in them.) It is a trend also here, that many people hope more upbeat memorial for themselves, to skip traditional gloomy hymns (and when we Lutherans go for gloomy hymns you can bet they are indeed gloomy, even our most upbeat hymns tend to be in minor) etc. And while I can see a point, it in some ways takes away from those who are grieving. Those familiar, safe customs can also help grieving people to handle the matter. </p><p></p><p>We also have a trend that is going to other direction, back to older customs, when death was not hidden away. More and more people want to prepare the body themselves, sit with the deceased after death in hospital and even mourners filling a grave with shovel (and not just the symbolic way but really) is coming more popular again.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 539974, member: 14557"] I'm in favour of traditional funerals. In my culture stoicism is valued and showing too much emotion is considered flimsy. Traditional funerals at least give some place and permission to show you are grieving (even though especially men are not really expected to cry even in them.) It is a trend also here, that many people hope more upbeat memorial for themselves, to skip traditional gloomy hymns (and when we Lutherans go for gloomy hymns you can bet they are indeed gloomy, even our most upbeat hymns tend to be in minor) etc. And while I can see a point, it in some ways takes away from those who are grieving. Those familiar, safe customs can also help grieving people to handle the matter. We also have a trend that is going to other direction, back to older customs, when death was not hidden away. More and more people want to prepare the body themselves, sit with the deceased after death in hospital and even mourners filling a grave with shovel (and not just the symbolic way but really) is coming more popular again. [/QUOTE]
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