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<blockquote data-quote="luvmyottb" data-source="post: 221359"><p>Terry,</p><p> </p><p>It is a difficult situation, but we have opted for being upfront with difficult child, family and friends. Everyone who observes her knows she is "different". Most people are charmed by her outgoing behavior and she loves people. But if you spend any time with her at all, you realize she oversteps boundaries, has a low frustration for anger and she will be socially inappropriate at times. </p><p> </p><p>She knows she is adopted and knows she has ADHD. We don't know if she is possibly biopolar, so we haven't shared this yet. She knows her brain is wired differently and we talk about it. We have taken the approach it takes a village to raise a difficult child, so we inform as many as we can with those who need the information. Obviously, I don't tell all her details, but only as it applies to the situation. </p><p> </p><p>When cheerleading this fall, I told the coach she has ADHD and may be hard to contain and focus sometimes. Or she will get over excited. I am sure you get the drift. I tell all her teachers, coaches and some of her friends too. My family and husband family have all been supportive and know how our road has been really difficult at times. She has pulled some c### with both families, but is no harm, no foul because they know she has issues and is forgiven. They want to help. For us, it's been a very positive thing to do. They know we sit in psychiatric, therapist, medical and school offices trying to help our difficult child as much as possible.</p><p> </p><p>Your difficult child knows he's different. However you can phrase it to his level could be a good thing and he may have some relief to know it has a name. Good luck to whatever you decide to do. It's the only way I could cope. Not to mention the looks and whispers you get about your difficult child behavior behind your back-they realize now we aren't sh#### parents. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="luvmyottb, post: 221359"] Terry, It is a difficult situation, but we have opted for being upfront with difficult child, family and friends. Everyone who observes her knows she is "different". Most people are charmed by her outgoing behavior and she loves people. But if you spend any time with her at all, you realize she oversteps boundaries, has a low frustration for anger and she will be socially inappropriate at times. She knows she is adopted and knows she has ADHD. We don't know if she is possibly biopolar, so we haven't shared this yet. She knows her brain is wired differently and we talk about it. We have taken the approach it takes a village to raise a difficult child, so we inform as many as we can with those who need the information. Obviously, I don't tell all her details, but only as it applies to the situation. When cheerleading this fall, I told the coach she has ADHD and may be hard to contain and focus sometimes. Or she will get over excited. I am sure you get the drift. I tell all her teachers, coaches and some of her friends too. My family and husband family have all been supportive and know how our road has been really difficult at times. She has pulled some c### with both families, but is no harm, no foul because they know she has issues and is forgiven. They want to help. For us, it's been a very positive thing to do. They know we sit in psychiatric, therapist, medical and school offices trying to help our difficult child as much as possible. Your difficult child knows he's different. However you can phrase it to his level could be a good thing and he may have some relief to know it has a name. Good luck to whatever you decide to do. It's the only way I could cope. Not to mention the looks and whispers you get about your difficult child behavior behind your back-they realize now we aren't sh#### parents. :winking: [/QUOTE]
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