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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar II" data-source="post: 113152" data-attributes="member: 4391"><p>I agree with Midwest Mom.</p><p></p><p>The most difficult part of parenting children like ours is defining our own boundaries and then, standing firm.</p><p></p><p>Once you have gone over the information your difficult child already knows ~ that illegal activities will get you evicted everytime, and that if your friends are performing illegal activities, that will get you evicted everytime too ~ then all you can do is encourage difficult child to remember that grown ups do not live at home with their parents, and she is a grown up.</p><p></p><p>Remember those responses in the PE archives:</p><p></p><p>"How are you going to handle the situation with your friends engaging in illegal activities in your yard and caring so little about you that they don't care whether you are evicted or not?"</p><p></p><p>"I'm so sorry this is happening to you ~ but this is what adults must learn to do. They must make decisions about their own lives, and about whether their friends are true friends, or are only using them."</p><p></p><p>There are lots of other great responses there, too.</p><p></p><p>As to the other mother, I would be honest with her. </p><p></p><p>You will need to stop trying to shelter difficult child.</p><p></p><p>She has decisions to make.</p><p></p><p>She will never grow if you do not allow her to choose her own path.</p><p></p><p>Make it very clear to difficult child that she is an adult now, and that adults do not live at home with their parents.</p><p></p><p>Ask her to consider where she will live if she refuses to deal with this problem and is evicted.</p><p></p><p>Barbara</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar II, post: 113152, member: 4391"] I agree with Midwest Mom. The most difficult part of parenting children like ours is defining our own boundaries and then, standing firm. Once you have gone over the information your difficult child already knows ~ that illegal activities will get you evicted everytime, and that if your friends are performing illegal activities, that will get you evicted everytime too ~ then all you can do is encourage difficult child to remember that grown ups do not live at home with their parents, and she is a grown up. Remember those responses in the PE archives: "How are you going to handle the situation with your friends engaging in illegal activities in your yard and caring so little about you that they don't care whether you are evicted or not?" "I'm so sorry this is happening to you ~ but this is what adults must learn to do. They must make decisions about their own lives, and about whether their friends are true friends, or are only using them." There are lots of other great responses there, too. As to the other mother, I would be honest with her. You will need to stop trying to shelter difficult child. She has decisions to make. She will never grow if you do not allow her to choose her own path. Make it very clear to difficult child that she is an adult now, and that adults do not live at home with their parents. Ask her to consider where she will live if she refuses to deal with this problem and is evicted. Barbara [/QUOTE]
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