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Delurk / Told my son to leave, finally
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<blockquote data-quote="ODAT" data-source="post: 129505" data-attributes="member: 4741"><p>Thank you again for being here and for all the supportive responses!</p><p></p><p>I attend both Nar-anon and Alanon meetings and it really is SO immensely helpful! I first went years ago because of my ex's addiction problems. My difficult child has also been involved with drugs but it's mainly been heavy marijuana use and "recreational" drinking. No *serious* addiction problems, but the substance use certainly doesn't help his behavior issues and I do believe the heavy marijuana use since age 13 has taken a major toll on him. It's also gotten him in trouble with the law more than once.</p><p></p><p>I recently returned to going to 12 step meetings regularly at least once a week and that's probably where I got the strength and the serenity to finally pick up the phone the other night - although I wasn't 100% serene when I made that call, lol, it definitely was the right thing to do!</p><p></p><p>And here's an update -- son got on craigslist.org the very first night he left and found himself a place to rent. He called me the next day very calmly to tell me he was going to look at the place and asked for my input, which I gave him. </p><p></p><p>He had 800 dollars set aside which would cover a month's rent but not the one month's security the landlord wants. But he signed the lease today and got the keys to move in immediately after talking the landlord into accepting half the security deposit on the first of March and the other half in April. </p><p></p><p>I am pleasantly surprised that he acted so quickly and is indeed landing on his feet and seemingly, for today, doing the right thing. I hope this keeps up, he seems very happy and optimistic about his new venture....and I will be happy to offer guidance and support from a distance and avoid all the disagreements and ugliness and arguing that arises when he is here.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Just as some of you shared about your own children -- maybe a little "tough love/push out of the nest/boot in the seat of his pants" is just what he needed to get motivated.</p><p></p><p></p><p>One day at a time, though. For today, all's well. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite8" alt=":D" title="Big Grin :D" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":D" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ODAT, post: 129505, member: 4741"] Thank you again for being here and for all the supportive responses! I attend both Nar-anon and Alanon meetings and it really is SO immensely helpful! I first went years ago because of my ex's addiction problems. My difficult child has also been involved with drugs but it's mainly been heavy marijuana use and "recreational" drinking. No *serious* addiction problems, but the substance use certainly doesn't help his behavior issues and I do believe the heavy marijuana use since age 13 has taken a major toll on him. It's also gotten him in trouble with the law more than once. I recently returned to going to 12 step meetings regularly at least once a week and that's probably where I got the strength and the serenity to finally pick up the phone the other night - although I wasn't 100% serene when I made that call, lol, it definitely was the right thing to do! And here's an update -- son got on craigslist.org the very first night he left and found himself a place to rent. He called me the next day very calmly to tell me he was going to look at the place and asked for my input, which I gave him. He had 800 dollars set aside which would cover a month's rent but not the one month's security the landlord wants. But he signed the lease today and got the keys to move in immediately after talking the landlord into accepting half the security deposit on the first of March and the other half in April. I am pleasantly surprised that he acted so quickly and is indeed landing on his feet and seemingly, for today, doing the right thing. I hope this keeps up, he seems very happy and optimistic about his new venture....and I will be happy to offer guidance and support from a distance and avoid all the disagreements and ugliness and arguing that arises when he is here. Just as some of you shared about your own children -- maybe a little "tough love/push out of the nest/boot in the seat of his pants" is just what he needed to get motivated. One day at a time, though. For today, all's well. :happy2: [/QUOTE]
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