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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 535408" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Terry, I can't help you with the bigger issues, although I suspect some of what difficult child says is true (about not feeling he fits in) and part is to upset you. If he is stealing, which Sonic does, you need to lock up your money. That's what we were told. Sonic mostly took a few bucks so he could buy potato chips or some other kind of junk food, and seemed to think that it "was only $3!" But we went to therapy and he was upset that he was taking money and getting into trouble and asked us to lock it up so he's not tempted and therapist agreed. It was hard to get hub on board ("I shouldn't have to lock anything up in MY house"), but after talking to therapist, he is doing it. </p><p></p><p>Do you think maybe you difficult child needs more supervision than his age would dictate? We were trying to give Sonic more freedom, like befitting an eighteen year old, but he can't handle it, really. He took our car out joyriding a few times too (I suspect to be like everyone else) and when he got caught cried and begged us also to lock up our keys because he doesn't want to be tempted. Well, we lock them up too because he would go driving at night. This is all to keep Sonic safe. If he steals he could get into trouble. If he drives without a license, he could get into trouble or hurt somebody. Now he can only go out with our permission and if we are there with him. We treat him like a much younger child because he wants us to keep him safe, much like a younger child does. </p><p></p><p>I'm not sure I'd like a difficult child with Aspergers to have a girlfriend whose parents don't keep in close touch with me. Sounds like trouble in my opinion. The older Sonic gets, the more I see that Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) teens/adults are different and may need more supervision for a much longer period of time. What is the deal with these elusive parents???? </p><p></p><p>Hugs to you...you are trying so hard. I'm sorry about your migraines. I can barely function with a caffeine-deprived headache let alone getting migraines with a difficult child bugging me! Please remember to take care of yourself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 535408, member: 1550"] Terry, I can't help you with the bigger issues, although I suspect some of what difficult child says is true (about not feeling he fits in) and part is to upset you. If he is stealing, which Sonic does, you need to lock up your money. That's what we were told. Sonic mostly took a few bucks so he could buy potato chips or some other kind of junk food, and seemed to think that it "was only $3!" But we went to therapy and he was upset that he was taking money and getting into trouble and asked us to lock it up so he's not tempted and therapist agreed. It was hard to get hub on board ("I shouldn't have to lock anything up in MY house"), but after talking to therapist, he is doing it. Do you think maybe you difficult child needs more supervision than his age would dictate? We were trying to give Sonic more freedom, like befitting an eighteen year old, but he can't handle it, really. He took our car out joyriding a few times too (I suspect to be like everyone else) and when he got caught cried and begged us also to lock up our keys because he doesn't want to be tempted. Well, we lock them up too because he would go driving at night. This is all to keep Sonic safe. If he steals he could get into trouble. If he drives without a license, he could get into trouble or hurt somebody. Now he can only go out with our permission and if we are there with him. We treat him like a much younger child because he wants us to keep him safe, much like a younger child does. I'm not sure I'd like a difficult child with Aspergers to have a girlfriend whose parents don't keep in close touch with me. Sounds like trouble in my opinion. The older Sonic gets, the more I see that Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) teens/adults are different and may need more supervision for a much longer period of time. What is the deal with these elusive parents???? Hugs to you...you are trying so hard. I'm sorry about your migraines. I can barely function with a caffeine-deprived headache let alone getting migraines with a difficult child bugging me! Please remember to take care of yourself. [/QUOTE]
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