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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 347881" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>If he was exposed to substances before he was even born, this can and usually does make it harder to learn. This kid started out in the hole. Also, I do think your personality is inborn. As adoptive parents (I adopted many) our children may not inherit our perseverence or our values. It seems funny that values could be inherited, but many times it seems that way. A child of a criminal who never sees the parent still has a higher risk of being a criminal because of personality traits (like impulsiveness) that causes one to break the law. </p><p>I have a good kid too, sixteen, who was born with crack in his system. He is very motivated, but certain things come harder for him. He is on the autism spectrum, which is common for drug exposed kids. Maybe you need to give him a neuropsychologist evaluation to pinpoint more of what is going wrong with him. My guess is that he has low self esteem (often adoption contributes to that) and some real learning issues that make it harder for him to learn than that kid who said "you have to work for the things you get." I'm just glad life is as good for my son as it is because he had such a rough start. Alcohol is actually worse for a developing fetus than other drugs...both can cause brain differences.</p><p></p><p>Good luck, whatever you decide <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 347881, member: 1550"] If he was exposed to substances before he was even born, this can and usually does make it harder to learn. This kid started out in the hole. Also, I do think your personality is inborn. As adoptive parents (I adopted many) our children may not inherit our perseverence or our values. It seems funny that values could be inherited, but many times it seems that way. A child of a criminal who never sees the parent still has a higher risk of being a criminal because of personality traits (like impulsiveness) that causes one to break the law. I have a good kid too, sixteen, who was born with crack in his system. He is very motivated, but certain things come harder for him. He is on the autism spectrum, which is common for drug exposed kids. Maybe you need to give him a neuropsychologist evaluation to pinpoint more of what is going wrong with him. My guess is that he has low self esteem (often adoption contributes to that) and some real learning issues that make it harder for him to learn than that kid who said "you have to work for the things you get." I'm just glad life is as good for my son as it is because he had such a rough start. Alcohol is actually worse for a developing fetus than other drugs...both can cause brain differences. Good luck, whatever you decide ;) [/QUOTE]
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