we have three children. All very successful by most standards. Beautiful kids, good- no trouble or drinking issues etc., very well mannered etc. Our middle son has been a challenge. He is different- he is extremely smart, bordering brilliant. He is very mature and settled for his age. He has always felt a little out of place in his age demographic. He is striking- just beautiful. He is funny and has always been very confident. He possesses strong leadership skills. He is driven, focused and strong willed. There is no changing his mind. Just some personality traits there to help you understand. He has a girlfriend that he has dated off and on for 6+ years. It is the only girl he has ever even looked at. She is everything to him. More then a high school sweetheart- one of those childhood loves that stay with you forever. He has planned his life around her. We have not encouraged any of this. We think and have always thought he was too young for this level of seriousness. They first dated when they were 14 ish. It ended terribly. She broke up with him, he was devastated. He didn't recover and became severely depressed. Eventually he ended up in the hospital from a Tylenol overdose. I found him in his own blood and bile. His youngest sibling witnessed it all. He shouldn't be here today. He is only by Gods grace. After that he/we went through 2 years of hell. His entire personality changed, he became aggressive and was very angry. Anytime we left the house, upon returning my husband would have to go in and "check" to make sure we weren't walking in on something horrible. I was sure we would lose him. He was hospitalized 3 times, on several medications. We tried everything. Eventually after a very grueling time the fog lifted. He returned to us. A year or so later, much to our horror, he began to date the girl again. We were sick. There was nothing we could do. We sat helpless and watched, keeping our mouths shut and our door open so we didn't drive him away. They will find a way with or without you. They have been together since- 2 1/2 more years. He has thrived. He is on almost a full ride at a great college and plans on being a lawyer. He is carrying a 4.0 after his first year. She is a year behind and was going to attend the same school. He planned everything around it. Drove home often etc etc. She, to give you some background, is beautiful. Very smart and very wealthy. I guess a big deal to someone his age. He is a deer in headlights for lack of a better description. A few months ago they found out she didn't get in to his college. Everything came crashing down. She has decided to go far away and dropped him very abruptly. This kind of thing happens, and I must say that we thought they were too young anyways but have never expressed that. She seems to be on her merry little way, unaffected. We now are reliving the nightmare we had before. It is worse. He is consumed. Devastated. He does not like his school now. Hates his home. Cries alone in a dark room and is not eating. He is unresponsive. He won't entertain counseling or medications. He won't talk to us at all. He doesn't see (which I know is part of it all) how much he really has. He is brilliant- gorgeous, funny and driven. The world is his. He is blessed to have gotten into a great college and worked so hard to get there. He spent a lot of time with her- so he is very isolated now. Lots of acquaintances, but no really close friends. However- it would shock people to know any of this. He comes across very confident and funny- it kind of reminds me of a Robin Williams situation- where people had no idea. The first time we went through this almost killed me. I don't know how I made it. This time it's worse. Even scarier. I can't breathe. I can't work. I can't get through an hour without envisioning him hanging from the ceiling or finding him. God help him and me. I don't know what to do. I have tried everything.