I must do. I hv been away from this board for a long time, so forgive my lack of abbrevs. I read Fran's board to cover the most common abbrevs used so please bear with-me. Feel free to use yours in your replies, I'll get them down eventually. I am 47, married 24 yrs, admin profession 15 yrs. 1 difficult child age 17-1/2. diagnosis ODD and ADD (impulsivity and attention depression) with bipolar depression. medications and therapy: Concerta 54 +27 mg. As part of the IEP, difficult child school based counselor was recommended. But difficult child sees private Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) thru my insurance plan. I would prefer that he sees one over the other, but difficult child prefers both. husband unwittingly assisted him in weaning him off of his prescribed anti-depressant: Remeron. The General Psychotherapist (new GP) who leads his treatment plan feels the Bipolar isn't so much an issue and asks us to closely monitor his moods in a journal. difficult child is coming to grips with his diagnosis. She has been assigned to replace the GP who left four months ago, but agrees with primary diagnoses that he clearly has ADD/ADHD based on two years of school's and our assessments of him. GP wants difficult child to see a therapist bi-weekly. Recently, we found out that difficult child that was seeing school based therapist on an adhoc-basis. I am requesting child-based 2 provide private based with her assessment of difficult child as we get closer to the end of difficult child's senior yr as part of transition. I also worry that if difficult child doesn't go to college there will be no more insurance coverage. I don't wish for difficult child to medicated for the rest of difficult child's life (unless it will be a forever thing), but I want to see him move into a transition to adult life. difficult child appears to have outgrown the hyperactivity. difficult child flatly refuses college (not even considering going PT ) and has no real plan of action after school except to be a music mogel or an actor. difficult child is a late bloomer in terms of being diagnosed with ADD/ADHD/BiPolar (BP) because husband was against child seeing a psychiatrist and thought child would outgrow the disorganized, undachieving and impulsive behaviors since elementary school. husband called it all a phase. difficult child is also a late bloomer in terms of what he loves: Acting-- even though he pursued it with great vigor in his sophomore, junior and senior years of high school. The school administrators, teachers, fellow students and his parents are impressed with the range of acting that difficult child demonstrated recently. difficult child was a key character in in Shakepearean play. However, husband and I do worry about this abstract plan of action. I think that a year off would help difficult child decide what he wants to do. difficult child's grades went up dramatically at the end of junior year and the past two marking periods as a senior which would help to boost his GPA and perhaps make him eligible for need based and academic scholarships. A student loan is out of the question as it has taken me almost five years to get out of consumer credit card debt and I am helping my husband to pay off his remaining debt. Despite the family's financial struggles, I managed to tuck away some of my earnings into a UGMA set up in difficult child's name and am prepared to take it from him and put it into trust for at least a year or two or until he decides to what he wants to do. It isn't much but it will at least cover his college courses or supplies for at least 2 semesters if he chooses to go. Believe me, it isn't much due to the family's up and down finances. difficult child got a PT job last summer and continues to work through the school year and he isn't contributing or saving toward college. difficult child spends every penny on clothes, music, movies, a girl who has caught his eye and eating establishments. This is where his head is. I have a lot more to add about the family dynamic and I'll get back to that drama later in another forum, but this lack of planning and what could happen after he reaches 18 rules over all. difficult child seems to resent me so much lately. My questions are: Does anyone agree with difficult child current treatment plan, should both therapist be involved or sharing in the treatment plan, is it fair to let difficult child live as he should or force continuing education beyond high school, can I legally move difficult child UGMA to a trust fund or do I have to give it to him? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.