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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 615973" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>Yes, holidays are bad. It is much easier to find those warm and fuzzy feelings when you have a bit time away from the constant chaos. When they are very, very young and you don't have time away from them at all, it is when they sleep (I started those techniques already when my difficult child was a tiny baby. He had an awful colic and his babyhood was very tough and exhausting to me and my husband.) When they get older and are either in day care or school, it helps a lot. But longer breaks can then wear anyone out.</p><p></p><p>I don't know if you work or if you are stay at home mom. In either case, try to have some alone time. Maybe a walk or run with the dogs, or if you have your home for you alone in some point daily, just nice cup of coffee and a mag, or something. Just try to do it everyday and not to think your kids or anything particular at all. That already helps a lot. And try to do that mental exercise and think those warm feelings about both of your kids (and about your husband too, that is helpful also) right after that. It is easier that way. And at least for me it actually did help during the hard times. Also helped to keep my marriage intact. </p><p></p><p>Even though my kids, or husband, is not causing me too much stress right now, I still do that daily. I also often add some of my friends or relatives to my thoughts. I have just found it is good for me and my mental well being too, and not just helping me not to strangle my kid.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 615973, member: 14557"] Yes, holidays are bad. It is much easier to find those warm and fuzzy feelings when you have a bit time away from the constant chaos. When they are very, very young and you don't have time away from them at all, it is when they sleep (I started those techniques already when my difficult child was a tiny baby. He had an awful colic and his babyhood was very tough and exhausting to me and my husband.) When they get older and are either in day care or school, it helps a lot. But longer breaks can then wear anyone out. I don't know if you work or if you are stay at home mom. In either case, try to have some alone time. Maybe a walk or run with the dogs, or if you have your home for you alone in some point daily, just nice cup of coffee and a mag, or something. Just try to do it everyday and not to think your kids or anything particular at all. That already helps a lot. And try to do that mental exercise and think those warm feelings about both of your kids (and about your husband too, that is helpful also) right after that. It is easier that way. And at least for me it actually did help during the hard times. Also helped to keep my marriage intact. Even though my kids, or husband, is not causing me too much stress right now, I still do that daily. I also often add some of my friends or relatives to my thoughts. I have just found it is good for me and my mental well being too, and not just helping me not to strangle my kid. [/QUOTE]
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