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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 234475" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>In the beginning it feels harsh, because to some of us who are codependent (or something <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> ) it is a huge change of thought processes and actions.</p><p> </p><p>But once it gets going, it is a lifesaver. And an easier way to live. </p><p> </p><p>I am also learning to detach from an elderly cousin in NY who should absolutely NOT be living alone in her apt. She leaves water boiling in an open pan on the stove (instead of a teapot), is addicted to painkillers, and cannot walk more than 3 steps to the bathroom with-o assistance. She makes me want to scream. I flew there and showed her retirement home pamphlets, tried to talk her into living here, did everything I could. I made appts. with-attorneys and doctors, Meals-on-Wheels, in-home care, you name it, and she cancelled them all. I used to call her every day, sometimes twice a day, if she didn't call me, and it was eating up all of my time and energy.</p><p> </p><p>I had to let go.</p><p> </p><p>She's still alive. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p> </p><p>Sometimes, it means just keep breathing. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 234475, member: 3419"] In the beginning it feels harsh, because to some of us who are codependent (or something :) ) it is a huge change of thought processes and actions. But once it gets going, it is a lifesaver. And an easier way to live. I am also learning to detach from an elderly cousin in NY who should absolutely NOT be living alone in her apt. She leaves water boiling in an open pan on the stove (instead of a teapot), is addicted to painkillers, and cannot walk more than 3 steps to the bathroom with-o assistance. She makes me want to scream. I flew there and showed her retirement home pamphlets, tried to talk her into living here, did everything I could. I made appts. with-attorneys and doctors, Meals-on-Wheels, in-home care, you name it, and she cancelled them all. I used to call her every day, sometimes twice a day, if she didn't call me, and it was eating up all of my time and energy. I had to let go. She's still alive. :) Sometimes, it means just keep breathing. :) [/QUOTE]
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