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<blockquote data-quote="vligrl" data-source="post: 514123" data-attributes="member: 14003"><p>Exhausted...I tried to detach from my child a few months back by not checking his car, room, fb.....It was good for awhile but he just seemed to take it as anything goes...my mom doesn't care so screw it. He dropped out of college, quit his pt job and just spent most of his time out with his friends, especially over Xmas. Now that we got him to re-enroll in Community College and found that he was missing classes and not doing all of his work, again...I have been like a bug up his bum asking about homework being turned in, tests taken, where are you questions texted to him, checking his social networks and for what? I care more than he does so how does this help him? We drive him back and forth to school because of cutting school and drugs but what is the point if he doesn't like school and is doing it half assed, as usual? I need detachment big time and don't know how to with him here. I am obsessed with trying to protect him and help him and I am exhausted. Why haven't I learned to finally let him fall on his face, deal with it himself and clean up his own messes? Instead my husband pays for a deposit to go to Israel, buys him a new cell, drives him to and from school, and was going to buy him more mature clothes (his request)plus a gym membership with us until today when his father asked him to turn off the tv so he could work and asked if he could see the homework he implied he did, he insulted my husband and isn't going to show him his work and to F off. Out of nowhere! Things had been very agreeable for the last two weeks and respectful and then as soon as my husband asked him about homework and to show him what he did, my husband suddenly was turned on. My husband replied by telling him he wouldn't be buying him new clothes since he "doesn't do anything". That got another F you. Before he left the house, my kid came into my room as if nothing had happened and asked if we were all joining a gym or not? WHAT? Are you serious, after how you spoke to your father, I said.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="vligrl, post: 514123, member: 14003"] Exhausted...I tried to detach from my child a few months back by not checking his car, room, fb.....It was good for awhile but he just seemed to take it as anything goes...my mom doesn't care so screw it. He dropped out of college, quit his pt job and just spent most of his time out with his friends, especially over Xmas. Now that we got him to re-enroll in Community College and found that he was missing classes and not doing all of his work, again...I have been like a bug up his bum asking about homework being turned in, tests taken, where are you questions texted to him, checking his social networks and for what? I care more than he does so how does this help him? We drive him back and forth to school because of cutting school and drugs but what is the point if he doesn't like school and is doing it half assed, as usual? I need detachment big time and don't know how to with him here. I am obsessed with trying to protect him and help him and I am exhausted. Why haven't I learned to finally let him fall on his face, deal with it himself and clean up his own messes? Instead my husband pays for a deposit to go to Israel, buys him a new cell, drives him to and from school, and was going to buy him more mature clothes (his request)plus a gym membership with us until today when his father asked him to turn off the tv so he could work and asked if he could see the homework he implied he did, he insulted my husband and isn't going to show him his work and to F off. Out of nowhere! Things had been very agreeable for the last two weeks and respectful and then as soon as my husband asked him about homework and to show him what he did, my husband suddenly was turned on. My husband replied by telling him he wouldn't be buying him new clothes since he "doesn't do anything". That got another F you. Before he left the house, my kid came into my room as if nothing had happened and asked if we were all joining a gym or not? WHAT? Are you serious, after how you spoke to your father, I said. [/QUOTE]
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