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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 680052" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>My opinion as one who has battled rather severe mental illness all of my life (three hospitalizations, but never gave up and am doing well). It takes determination, willpower, and hard work, but is worth it.</p><p></p><p>I doubt two college courses, one at home, set him off on this binge. He has the disease of addiction and anything can start him off. Usually it is the desire for the substance the ill person craves. Just seeing someone drink can do it. Or just the thought. He may have been around some drinkers and been given a drink. Happens a lot.</p><p></p><p>On the other hand, I am not convinced he cares about college considering how he lives t he rest of his life. He doesn't even like to work and college is hard work. I think he is talking about college to gain brownie points from you. He knows YOU want him to want it. I feel it is a manipulative thing, not a true desire...a college education.</p><p></p><p>He drinks because he is an alcoholic. Binging, I read, is actually more physically treacherous than drinking every day. Until he faces his alcoholism and wants to cure it, nothing will happen. As soon as he wants to stop, he will work hard to quit. Alcoholics stop drinking every single day. He can be one of them, but he has to recognize what he is and to work hard.</p><p></p><p>I have a lifetime of serious anxiety of every type and depression. Before my current medication cocktail, which rocks, I was also suicidal. But mental illness does not cause one to substance abuse. It is a good excuse though that tugs at a moms heart. Drinking actually makes both mental health issues worse, which is why I don't do it.</p><p></p><p>Your son isn't that fragile. He can both work on his anxiety/depression and get sober. People do it every day. But it is up to him. Is he in duo diagnosis? It is hard to diagnose any mental illness and be accurate about it until the person has been sober for at least six months. The drugs/alcohol itself causes symptoms of mental illness and alcohol is a depressant. Makes depression worse and can even start up depression that was not there before.</p><p></p><p>Hugs and wishing you the best. I hope this isn't too harsh. I just think maybe you don't want to see how serious this is and who is the one who has to do the hard work...him. I wish you a peaceful day. Yes, you can have one. You are NOT him. You deserve to be happy. Your unhappiness will not help your son one bit. So enjoy the day and pray a lot, if you pray. If not, just let go of the outcome (there is a thread about this now). You can't control your son. Be nice if we could, right?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 680052, member: 1550"] My opinion as one who has battled rather severe mental illness all of my life (three hospitalizations, but never gave up and am doing well). It takes determination, willpower, and hard work, but is worth it. I doubt two college courses, one at home, set him off on this binge. He has the disease of addiction and anything can start him off. Usually it is the desire for the substance the ill person craves. Just seeing someone drink can do it. Or just the thought. He may have been around some drinkers and been given a drink. Happens a lot. On the other hand, I am not convinced he cares about college considering how he lives t he rest of his life. He doesn't even like to work and college is hard work. I think he is talking about college to gain brownie points from you. He knows YOU want him to want it. I feel it is a manipulative thing, not a true desire...a college education. He drinks because he is an alcoholic. Binging, I read, is actually more physically treacherous than drinking every day. Until he faces his alcoholism and wants to cure it, nothing will happen. As soon as he wants to stop, he will work hard to quit. Alcoholics stop drinking every single day. He can be one of them, but he has to recognize what he is and to work hard. I have a lifetime of serious anxiety of every type and depression. Before my current medication cocktail, which rocks, I was also suicidal. But mental illness does not cause one to substance abuse. It is a good excuse though that tugs at a moms heart. Drinking actually makes both mental health issues worse, which is why I don't do it. Your son isn't that fragile. He can both work on his anxiety/depression and get sober. People do it every day. But it is up to him. Is he in duo diagnosis? It is hard to diagnose any mental illness and be accurate about it until the person has been sober for at least six months. The drugs/alcohol itself causes symptoms of mental illness and alcohol is a depressant. Makes depression worse and can even start up depression that was not there before. Hugs and wishing you the best. I hope this isn't too harsh. I just think maybe you don't want to see how serious this is and who is the one who has to do the hard work...him. I wish you a peaceful day. Yes, you can have one. You are NOT him. You deserve to be happy. Your unhappiness will not help your son one bit. So enjoy the day and pray a lot, if you pray. If not, just let go of the outcome (there is a thread about this now). You can't control your son. Be nice if we could, right? [/QUOTE]
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