Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
DHS wants to send my difficult child away
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 183541" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>We had experience with this and I can share what we were told. Remember, this is our situation and our state only.</p><p>One boy had perped badly on all the other kids. Another boy, also adopted, had perped on our daughter at knifepoint. BOTH boys were taken away. We hadn't wanted the second boy to go, but we had no say so (and he was legally adopted so he was ours). They said that, no matter what, it was to protect our daughter, and to find out what really happened, stating that kids often do not "tell" on each other about these things and that they needed to get to the truth. </p><p>Again, I can't speak for any situation but our own. It turned out that A LOT had gone on that we hadn't known. We had at first been told by all the kids that this had only happened once or twice. But it had really been quite severe. With that, the psychiatrist treating our second son, the one we hadn't wanted to leave us, said that, even though he'd been forced to perp on daughter, the two of them were at high risk to act out sexually with each other when they were older. Do I believe this? I have no idea. It scared us to death.</p><p> The Caseworker didn't let this particular boy, who had lived with us for a little over a year, come home for over a year (longer than he'd been in our family), and then we needed a safety plan. In the end, long story, he ended up going to foster care and we let that family adopt him. It still makes me cry to think about it. However, every single situation is different. This is how they authorities felt about our case however. We still don't understand a lot of it with second son.</p><p>We hired a lawyer, but he told us there wasn't all that much he could do, and there wasn't. I hope your lawyer is more successful. I would definitely hire one and try. By the way, the court disregarded recommendations from our adopted son's counselor...it was very frustrating.</p><p>As for the actual perp, we never saw him again, but we didn't want to. (((Hugs))) Trust me when I say, I know how hard this is.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 183541, member: 1550"] We had experience with this and I can share what we were told. Remember, this is our situation and our state only. One boy had perped badly on all the other kids. Another boy, also adopted, had perped on our daughter at knifepoint. BOTH boys were taken away. We hadn't wanted the second boy to go, but we had no say so (and he was legally adopted so he was ours). They said that, no matter what, it was to protect our daughter, and to find out what really happened, stating that kids often do not "tell" on each other about these things and that they needed to get to the truth. Again, I can't speak for any situation but our own. It turned out that A LOT had gone on that we hadn't known. We had at first been told by all the kids that this had only happened once or twice. But it had really been quite severe. With that, the psychiatrist treating our second son, the one we hadn't wanted to leave us, said that, even though he'd been forced to perp on daughter, the two of them were at high risk to act out sexually with each other when they were older. Do I believe this? I have no idea. It scared us to death. The Caseworker didn't let this particular boy, who had lived with us for a little over a year, come home for over a year (longer than he'd been in our family), and then we needed a safety plan. In the end, long story, he ended up going to foster care and we let that family adopt him. It still makes me cry to think about it. However, every single situation is different. This is how they authorities felt about our case however. We still don't understand a lot of it with second son. We hired a lawyer, but he told us there wasn't all that much he could do, and there wasn't. I hope your lawyer is more successful. I would definitely hire one and try. By the way, the court disregarded recommendations from our adopted son's counselor...it was very frustrating. As for the actual perp, we never saw him again, but we didn't want to. (((Hugs))) Trust me when I say, I know how hard this is. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
DHS wants to send my difficult child away
Top