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<blockquote data-quote="AHF" data-source="post: 479690" data-attributes="member: 11180"><p>To go back to your question--has anyone had a child whom professionals have given up on? I have. Psychiatric facilities have instructed me to come pick him up because they can't (read: won't, because they don't want to fight it out in court) keep him. Step-down programs have tossed him out for failure to comply. Schools have tossed him out for ceasing to attend class. I've reached a certain point of acceptance--that is, it is understandable for these places to give up. They have other patients, other members of their community who are adversely affected by my difficult child, and they have to look out for everyone. They sometimes see value in the difficult child's learning the tough lesson: get with the program or you're on the street. Which--I know--can make things worse, because it sounds as if your daughter, once on the street, turned to prostitution. Whatever the source of your daughter's disorder, the fact that professionals have given up does NOT mean that you have to keep "holding the bag." Sometimes all it takes is one person--a caring social worker, a mentor who's been where she is--to get her to hear something like "I'm not giving up on you. I believe in YOU--in your ability to change your behavior and turn your life around." Rather than hearing "I give up on you, go die in the gutter." Good luck and welcome!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AHF, post: 479690, member: 11180"] To go back to your question--has anyone had a child whom professionals have given up on? I have. Psychiatric facilities have instructed me to come pick him up because they can't (read: won't, because they don't want to fight it out in court) keep him. Step-down programs have tossed him out for failure to comply. Schools have tossed him out for ceasing to attend class. I've reached a certain point of acceptance--that is, it is understandable for these places to give up. They have other patients, other members of their community who are adversely affected by my difficult child, and they have to look out for everyone. They sometimes see value in the difficult child's learning the tough lesson: get with the program or you're on the street. Which--I know--can make things worse, because it sounds as if your daughter, once on the street, turned to prostitution. Whatever the source of your daughter's disorder, the fact that professionals have given up does NOT mean that you have to keep "holding the bag." Sometimes all it takes is one person--a caring social worker, a mentor who's been where she is--to get her to hear something like "I'm not giving up on you. I believe in YOU--in your ability to change your behavior and turn your life around." Rather than hearing "I give up on you, go die in the gutter." Good luck and welcome! [/QUOTE]
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