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diagnosis changed from ADHD to Asperger's - FRUSTRATED!
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<blockquote data-quote="keista" data-source="post: 449171" data-attributes="member: 11965"><p>Poor kid, and Poor you. ((((HUGS))))</p><p></p><p>Middle school and puberty were a very difficult transition for my son (aspie) He was put on Abilify for the depression that manifested at the time. It's working great for him - not perfect, but reduces periods of frustration, and reduces the frequency and intensity of the depressive episodes, which were brought on by typical Aspie frustrations.</p><p></p><p>Mine also had a phase of internet porn. I was fully aware of the frequent long showers he began taking (figured it was typical pubescent behavior) but was not aware of his searches. One night, he came and confessed to me. He was feeling intense guilt and shame. I was able to keep calm and discuss the dangers and inappropriateness of his 'addiction' (not to mention it is ILLEGAL for a minor). He promised to try and stop, and assured me his sisters were NEVER around when he searched. It took a few months, but he has finally stopped. Unfortunately so have the long showers. I say unfortunately because this is normal human behavior and a 'good' stress reliever. This past winter when he was getting crazy frustrated with school work, I started suggesting he should start taking those long showers again. Sadly he didn't understand what I really meant. I feel that getting any more specific is inappropriate, and, well, the porn thing is just plain illegal for a minor. </p><p></p><p>I haven't done it, but a friend suggested I leave a "Victoria Secrets" or other such catalog lying around. Personally, I used to go digging through my Dad's National Geographic collection. This is a normal and natural curiosity and exploration. Problem is that the internet provides easy access to stuff that goes WAY beyond anything close to age appropriate.</p><p></p><p>As far as the IEP goes, you really need to get 'inside his head' and figure out what stresses him out, and what makes things so difficult for him. One of my son's biggest issues is handing in work. He can have it all done but for some reason, he won't hand it in. So one of his accommodations is extra time for assignments. He is excused from assemblies and especially pep rallies. All the noise really sets him off. Due to noise and chaos, he also has the option of going to a classroom for his lunch. The last semester of school he was managing without that by finding 'quieter' areas/tables to eat at (this school has a very strange setup - there is NO cafeteria. The tables are set up in the large hallway junctures)</p><p></p><p>He also has a teacher/classroom he can retreat to when he's overwhelmed in his regular classes, or just having a bad day.</p><p></p><p>Hopefully he will participate in IEP planning by letting you or staff know what things bug him or are too difficult for him. Not EVERYTHING he views as a problem can be accommodated, but maybe if he sees ppl are trying to help, he'll be more compliant.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="keista, post: 449171, member: 11965"] Poor kid, and Poor you. ((((HUGS)))) Middle school and puberty were a very difficult transition for my son (aspie) He was put on Abilify for the depression that manifested at the time. It's working great for him - not perfect, but reduces periods of frustration, and reduces the frequency and intensity of the depressive episodes, which were brought on by typical Aspie frustrations. Mine also had a phase of internet porn. I was fully aware of the frequent long showers he began taking (figured it was typical pubescent behavior) but was not aware of his searches. One night, he came and confessed to me. He was feeling intense guilt and shame. I was able to keep calm and discuss the dangers and inappropriateness of his 'addiction' (not to mention it is ILLEGAL for a minor). He promised to try and stop, and assured me his sisters were NEVER around when he searched. It took a few months, but he has finally stopped. Unfortunately so have the long showers. I say unfortunately because this is normal human behavior and a 'good' stress reliever. This past winter when he was getting crazy frustrated with school work, I started suggesting he should start taking those long showers again. Sadly he didn't understand what I really meant. I feel that getting any more specific is inappropriate, and, well, the porn thing is just plain illegal for a minor. I haven't done it, but a friend suggested I leave a "Victoria Secrets" or other such catalog lying around. Personally, I used to go digging through my Dad's National Geographic collection. This is a normal and natural curiosity and exploration. Problem is that the internet provides easy access to stuff that goes WAY beyond anything close to age appropriate. As far as the IEP goes, you really need to get 'inside his head' and figure out what stresses him out, and what makes things so difficult for him. One of my son's biggest issues is handing in work. He can have it all done but for some reason, he won't hand it in. So one of his accommodations is extra time for assignments. He is excused from assemblies and especially pep rallies. All the noise really sets him off. Due to noise and chaos, he also has the option of going to a classroom for his lunch. The last semester of school he was managing without that by finding 'quieter' areas/tables to eat at (this school has a very strange setup - there is NO cafeteria. The tables are set up in the large hallway junctures) He also has a teacher/classroom he can retreat to when he's overwhelmed in his regular classes, or just having a bad day. Hopefully he will participate in IEP planning by letting you or staff know what things bug him or are too difficult for him. Not EVERYTHING he views as a problem can be accommodated, but maybe if he sees ppl are trying to help, he'll be more compliant. [/QUOTE]
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